Husband Too Much Of Calls Affecting Married Life

hello friends,
I am here with a problem which require your suggestion, we have been married for 5 yrs with a toddler both of us full time working staying in USA. My problem is my husband makes too much of calls to his family daily we go to office at 8 am reach home by 6 pm tired. My husband daily calls his brother and his parents , his brother is in usa with a different time zone and parents in India, these video calls goes for almost 30-45 mins each to his brother and parents close to 1.5 hour a day. I will be cooking in kitchen doing chores by the time video calls are done each and every minute detail of our life is narrated to them, then my sons skips dinner and he is tired ready to sleep, my work will be slogged i feel like finishing my work by 8 pm and spend some time with my kid by playing with him and get relaxed. It is never going to be possible in my life. Weekends are hell for me morning and evening calls . If i say dont call too much he get offended, my bil is not interested to talk to my husband daily i can sense that he never calls us in my 5 yrs of married life he called less than 5 times but my husband 5x365 days plus 6 times weekend. If some one comes our home as soon as they step out of door calls start, i am getting irritated even i love my family back in india but i have never troubled my husband like this. My mil will take an hour long class of child raising daily what should we feed him what should we play with him point to point i am getting irritated. Mil will never give personal space every thjng should run according to her i dont feel like i am in USa i literally feel i am in a joint family what to do?

 

Thank you Sangeetha for your suggestion but MIL wants kid to be present in call, he is small get distracted easily and ignore eating dinner. More over I get irritated to listen their Gyan all the time giving suggestions of how to raise a kid 24x7 once in a while it is Okay but all the time Do this Do that. Things are much changed now we were raised differently in a different country altogether. Here he goes to day care and eats some of the food there which is quite different from the food in India and MIL keeps taunting on that .

 

I dont have time to do that and dont have patience after a long tiring day to listen and answer their Taunts. So I started playing a deaf ear, but now I feel so bad if my son is skipping dinner and I am absolutely not getting time to play with him.

 

Thank you friends for all your suggestions, I will try some of the tips you have given.I am not insecure about my relationship with my husband, even he shares with me every thing he is pretty open kind of person. But what makes me angry is most of the time is going in this calls which are good for nothing. Instead he can make a call every weekend and talk for hours at a stretch. My inlaws have no personal life though they dont be in touch with any relatives or go out or any where all the time their focus is on son family which is in different timezone in a different country.They want each and every detail to be updated to them and my son is listening to all that stuff in video calls and some of the things I dont want him to listen. One more thing which makes me scary was my MIL gives each and every instruction for how to lead a daily life and some times my husband differ her opinion and Say NO we will do certain things in Certain way, then she wont listen she will force and then my husband gets irritated and Say "No I will do this way only". By seeing all this daily I dont know what my son will learn "Not to Obey parents" he might come to us in future and say "Did you listen to your parent?". I know some of my MIL instructions are unreasonable which are not possible to follow. One more thing I dont like is since they are talking too much on phone and she is controlling us too much some things their conversations go out of track and my husband starts yelling. I dont want my son to learn all this. Even If I differ my opinion with my husband i will not share it with him before my son, he is too small now but I think kids will understand fast :-o