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Husband too much dominating

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by ritugupta12, Mar 10, 2013.

  1. ritugupta12

    ritugupta12 New IL'ite

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    My husband is too much dominating. He tries to do whatever he thinks is correct. He listens to me, but argue always. He makes me incorrect always, even if I am correct. That is, he always convince me.

    Like if I say that his parents are incorrect in some situation, he will never accept it. I am a very honest person, I always say what is truth. I openly accept, if my parents are wrong somewhere. But on the other hand, he never accepts and take their side. I just don't like that.

    Secondly, he is not expressive and he don't speak much. He is workaholic and I hate that too.

    We had a love marriage and it's just 4 months ago, but I feel like I hate him now. I don't know what will be our future. Sometimes, I just feel to get away from him. Please suggest me what can I do for it. I can't live my whole life by keeping anger inside me.

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  2. moukthika9

    moukthika9 Gold IL'ite

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    hi ritu.....
    just express what you feel with him.dont be silent and take decisions calmly...it never helps you.
     
  3. Kungumam

    Kungumam Gold IL'ite

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    Tell him first something nice about his mother and then say but only this I don't like , otherwise everything is ok then make ur point. He might understand .
     
  4. ritugupta12

    ritugupta12 New IL'ite

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    I had talked to him several times, but that is not solution as he says you always complain...
    yea..he got some good points too..bt I am alone here...this place is new to me..I have no friends here...with whom I can share my feelings...I am going to college, bt I have no friends here...he keep on working and I felt lonely here...
     
  5. Jaffareddy

    Jaffareddy Silver IL'ite

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    Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.
     
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  6. Jaffareddy

    Jaffareddy Silver IL'ite

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    Be patience ritu...U shld have better understand him...as you were in love with him from many years( i think)...There is no meaning for love marriage if u start hating him....just chill out
     
  7. ritugupta12

    ritugupta12 New IL'ite

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    I think I was childish at that time when I took that decision...it seems so perfect to me at that time...but now things changed ...sometimes even if you know this gonna happen, but you still do that mistake..that is called Love marriage...

    may be I just need to keep more patience to wait for the right time...but frankly saying that parent's thing seriously kills me...he thinks his parents are great..they did a lot for them...so same my parents did...if his parents can't understand me, the same they will get from me....

    thanks all for suggestions...I need to have more patience....
     
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  8. Jaffareddy

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    Exactly thats what i mean too.......once you are ready for marriage....u shld be ready enough to face ups/down in life....just be calm, wait for some more time.....or else give him some time to change..make some hobbies for your self and be busy with them......Empty brain is devils shelter
     
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    ritugupta12 New IL'ite

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    am not empty..i have plenty of work to do....but whenever we had talk at his home...all these thoughts are unavoidable.......and he calls every weekend at his home, which I don't want to talk...
     
  10. Jaffareddy

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    I think you need to have self counselling...when u marry him..u shld adjust with his family....just on weekend when he calls his family.....just act accordingly say hi/ hello/ greetings...ask abt health and leave it.....that makes job easy......be patience ritu
     
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