Husband Lacks Motivation.

not sure how complex is ur case. May be you might have to take step forward and compromise and work on ur marriage relation ship and get back your hubby

 

They must have a good mutual understanding and respect for each other. If you are separated then how does that matter to you?

 

You are separated from him right? So if he s helping others I dont think you need to worry.

As long as your son is happy with him and his needs are met I dont think you need to interfere.
If you think it can affect your son then definitely you need to pitch in and understand how he has planned for your sons future.
If you intend to go back to your hubby then work on improving your relationship with him then everything else will fall its own place.

 

You both have been married for close to a decade, but looks like she has more power over your hubby, it could be that he feels a lot of guilt esp with his bros daughter added into this. His brothers loss is playing a very powerful role here. N the daughter is his blood, so he may feel highly obligated due to that as well.

N You have been separated for long.. so you both should decide how to progress ahead or atleast you make up your mind about what you want from this marriage.

If your intention is to get a divorce, then proceed with that. You can apply for joint custody also if you want or whatever is right for your son.

Or if your intention is to stay then fix the marriage n live together.

If you want to stay married but continue being separated, then you can't control what he does.

Separated couple don't really prioritise their spouse's need. So he may not feel the need to listen to you.

Make sure your son is safe, happy, well provided n well taken care of. He should be the priority here.

Would suggest you to make your choice about this marriage first n then proceed according to that.