Everytime I want to see my family, my husband starts getting angry or just ignores or avoids the topic completely-basically I get that he does not like that I want to go. He kind of has an anger problem (In the beginning months of our marriage he smashed plates with food twice because I just said something he did not like.) Since then I have learnt to notice his trigger points and avoid them. Even he has learnt to control his anger a lot since then. But once in a while it erupts like crazy. Unfortunately, one of triggers is when I have to see my parents. So now they are in US at my brothers place and I have been telling him that I would like to go stay with then for sometime and then they can also visit us for sometime. I want to split the time because I don't want my parents to witness his temper tantrums and rudeness. I know he can be really nice for few days but not for a longer time. He is like that with his own parents also. But I will not be able to live with him if he is rude to my parents which is his normal nature. But he is hesitant to let me go because of his parents. I overheard them fighting/yelling at him that why I should have any attachments to my birth family now that I am married and why I should go and stay with my family during our previous India visit. To my face they are very sweet though. Fortunately, I went to my parents place first, later however, when I went to my inlaws place, my hubby had just come. He yelled at me in front of his parents that I should go to my parents place and stay there only. Now that my parents are here I told him that I am planning to go. He is just avoiding making a plan. What should I do? I feel like I am always walking on eggshells around him. I think he is worried about what he would tell his parents while I am gone. Sorry for the long rant.