husband cheated me

Shame on them.... Cheats.

Even after so many years of living with you and seeing your genuine love and care for him, he did not have the decency to tell you the truth.
He is the bigger culprit here.

And instead of apologizing, fil is making a mockery of you.
You have every right to feel angry, betrayed etc.

Try to become financially and emotionally independent.

Improve your life and stop doing seva. He is an adult. He should know to take care of his health and also cooperate with your efforts.

 

I understand. Even I hate when somebody who are close lie and cheat. It is worst than direct abuse or fight.

 

Hugs to you ,dear!What a family is that?FIL abuses you saying your hubby became diabetic due to yoir bad luck while actually the son was already diabetic.How ruthless of them?What is yoir hubby's take in all this?Did he take your side?Did he ask his dad to shut up since the codn prevailed even before marriage?From your post I understand he did not.And still you are worried about his health.I can understand but it beats me when a woman has to take care of such men.Your FIL should be in jail for cheating you and he has the audacity to talk about rules???

There is no point in looking back now.They are cheaters and cheap.Period.

Why is your hubby not controlling his junk food intake.The next time you go o the doctor,request him to tell your hubby sternly about what he should eat and what not.May be a diet chart from doctor can help???

 

Sorry to read your post, Viji. I can imagine how bitter you must be feeling. Have you confronted this with him?
*hugs*

 

well what can i say except " your bad luck!"

 

maybe even FIL was not aware that your hubby was diabetic before marriage & now he has nothing to say but trying to keep upperhand by saying that there is no rule about marrying diabetic...........still ask them once & clear this issue...........continue taking care of your hubby's health.....its important for your future also..........

 

Will you leave your husband for cheating?

I think NO,Yes?

Well with controlled diabetes a person can live long as any other person does.
Art of living is very good as somebody i know is doing it daily and is healthy.
If you have any say, talk to your husband and convince him to change his foodhabit,if there is any elder who is reliable to you and your hus,share it and let that person talk to your hus.

 

I guess there is not much you can do about it now unless you consider this issue serious enough to part ways.
I would talk to my parents first if this were an arranged alliance through them to see what kind of background check they had done on the groom. And then perhaps your parents could take it up with your in-laws.
I know of cases where husbands have hidden something as serious as impotency and basically destroyed the entire woman's future - no intimate life, no kids. So what can/should be revealed and what should not is still a very grey area in indian arranged marriages and different people rate the significance differently. For some AIDS may rank the highest, followed by impotency. Diabetes may not be considered a "big deal" by some. Of course, in your case I think you are more upset by the way they have concealed/handled the problem more than the problem itself.

Your FIL defense is like a thief trapped in a corner, basically he did not know which way or where to run when you confronted him. Now that you have made known to both your husband and FIL that you know this information and have also confronted them for accountability, the advantage going forward will be yours. They know (even if they do not admit) that they have been the wrong-doers in this instance - it will (it should) make them tread carefully with you at least for some time in the near future.

Aamrapali

 

hello op,

it is obvious that u r feeling cheated, and to top it your fil's worst conclusions, will he accept u if the thing is reverese.

good u confronted them, and leave it there talk to ur hus how much care u have been taking for both of ur betterment its better if u directly ask ur doctor to explain him how much harm does over weight causes, as suggested by bhuvnidhi you can ask urdoctor to prepare a diet chart .

encourage him to do some physical excercise regularly, dont spoil ur mood dear everything will be alright.tc.