How's your relationship with your Mother-in-Law?

my dear friends

We all are still suffering and sulking at the ages old question which has no positive answer till we change ourselves.This is the only major problem in this world..............in-laws..........either with husband or with wife.We all know in our hearts that we cannot solve it unless we take very bold and drastic steps.Single family system was the temporary solution but which is also fading now as mostly families are having single child.Right from the childhood the children come to listen..........biwi aaye gi tu vohi seedha kare gi..................kar lo yahan aish sasural mein saas ki maar pade gi tu maa ki yaad aaye gee....or what not..............

Why? All the time everyone hears all this and then grewup with bad feelings for these relations.So all SILs and DILS are always bad and cannot be friends.Do u ever feel strongly.........that the men are always(90%) alloof and enjoy their best.Why woman is against woman all the time?

I think we should all change ourself and start telling our children that they will enjoy their life where ever they live,when they will grow up, no matter with whoom they will share their life values.Life is very short and they should try to live it meaningfully.So let us start afresh.....
Charity always begin at home.
All the best
raka

 

It is rare to see...

Amritha,

I think you would agree if I say that it is very rare to find a really smooth relationship between a d-i-l and a m-i-l (or) d-i-l and s-i-l. If not big rifts, these relationships atleast carry a little frustration against each other in few situations. May be it is a curse among women in the in-law relationships and as pointed out by Raka, we are growing right from young with a kind of hatred feeling for the in-laws.

So however a good angel the d-i-l happens to be, the m-i-l finds some fault. Similarly however a good care taker a m-i-l happens to be, the d-i-l too finds some fault.

Having said that, I would say you should alteast be happy for the reason your m-i-l screamed at you. She screamed at you for not eating what she cooks! Just think, how many m-i-ls are willing to cook or do some help for their d-i-ls? That way you are really gifted to have a m-i-l who cooks and wants you to eat more. Think this way and it will mellow down your problem. Don't worry or get disheartened.

These are nothing compared to some illogical or irrational things happening at various homes between the d-i-ls and m-i-ls.

 

my dear friends

“ THE LAW OF RECIPROCATION ”​

When you give a little

You get back a little bit more!

When you give a little bit more

You get back a lot more!

When you give a lot more

The returns sometimes are ten-folds!

So Giving is the key

Love, Honesty and Dedication are the chains!

And once you are filled with these emotions

There will be no more setbacks in life

Only Promotions!

So let’s give Love

Let’s give Honesty and Dedication

To all those who are around us

Let’s cross the borders of Religion

And enter the world of God!

The Law of Reciprocation begins from Him

The way He gives us without asking

Let’s give it back to Him!

And we can do that

By giving a little, a little bit more, a lot more

Love, Honesty, Dedication to each other!

Brother to brother, sister to sister, husband to wife

And never to forget, our Father and Mother!

If we allow the Law of Reciprocation to work for us

Then who can be against us!​

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How about this poem??????????????????just give a thought.​

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Relationship with MIL

Hi Amritha,

No, definitely u are not bad..............

Mother-in-law is only LIKE a MOther; SIL is only LIKE a Sister and Finallly D-I-L is only LIKE a daughter... u see the gap already. It can never be a smooth relationship. I find human relationships very strange. But unfortunately we are social animals and have to get along with life however rough the path is. As superior animals god has blessed us with other qualities -to forgive, to forget, take decisions, etc. which can guide us to better life. We'll learn everything as we get older; either in a easy way or the hard way.


Have u seen the movie, "MONSTER-IN-LAW"..
My MIL was thousand times worse than her. Ofcourse that movie is hilarious, just imagine a serious Indian role of the same and that fits my MIL. B4 marriage I thought I'll work hard to have a smooth relationship with my MIL but in few months I came to know all her tactics. She's extreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeemly possessive of her son. That one sentence shld tell it all. But I could still survive only because of the intense love I had for my hubby. If I had reacted to my MIL everytime and had a sour relationship with my hubby everything would have gone haywire.

She walked out on us and today I don't stop my husband from talking or his making sure of her well-being. I think its his responsibility and when that is done he'll be with peace to lead his life with us. I've kept my distance because I don't want to get hurt anymore and I've the responsibility of the children and don't wanna pass anything negative on to my kids.


Though I hated her for what she was (but never uttered a word against her or had any verbal exchange about her with anyone - I've cried and cried a lot whenever I was hurt; never complained to my husband but shared my feelings softly whenever I felt very low) I don't hate her anymore. I only feel sad that she doesn't realise how beautiful her family is. she doesn't have any bonding with grand children too. Sometimes I really wonder what they gain from all this????

HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS ARE STRANGE SOMETIMES...............

Meena :-D
SMILES GO MILES

 

Hi all lovely ladies

Whatever is there, is a bitter truth.Everybody is suffering from this relationship.But I think there should be FULL STOP somewhere.Everybody knows that History repeats itself.But can't we start afresh to mend our ways.Today we are DILS but tomorrow we will be MILS.Though we are much educated but I am sure 50% of our generation will behave the same way as our present Mils are behaving.Its an old saying"BOOND BOOND SE GHADA BHARTA HAI".So let us start changing ourself bit by bit to make 1+1=11, not 1+1=2.Please donot expect any change from our MILS.In this way,I hope we will be able to give better life to our future DILS.

I know its easy to say than to do.If we feel this way then please for GOD sake donot spoil ur today for the sake of such petty think and thank GOD Who has given us 2 ears .

 

my FIL is worse

Hi Amritha and others,

While all of us our stressing on MIL-DIL relationship,mine is a strange one.
Today my relationship with my FIL is such that we don't even enquire about each other.I avoid him because I feel that if I do talk to him and if he does bring up any topic for discussion,then it will end up in an argument.Hoping to change this soon.

 

Hi Sunita,

The root cause of this problem is EGO.Life is very short and we are wasting it in all silly matters.If u cannot solve the problem then just try to avoid it.Try to keep urself busy with other things.If u stop reacting then the other party will also stop after sometime,when there will be no reaction.

Otherwise this is the best topic to discuss in the world endlessly.
+ thinking darlings
raka