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How To Vacant Someone From Brain

Discussion in 'Health & Wellness' started by BeautifulSmile, Oct 8, 2019.

  1. sokanasanah

    sokanasanah IL Hall of Fame

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    This battle is unwinnable. :wink1:
    Ironic Process Theory
    Thought Suppression
    The Game

    There is a LOT of literature on this subject. It should reassure to know that you are not alone in feeling this way! Such thoughts are the emotional/cognitive equivalent of earworms. The more you fight it, the more they will intrude. Two different strategies, among many, may be useful.

    The first is to realize, really understand, that your brain cannot hold two thoughts at once. It may appear so, but what is actually going on is that you are switching rapidly from one thought to the next, but a great proportion of the thoughts are about whatever it is that you're trying to avoid. So, in order to reduce the proportion of unwanted thoughts, you might try working on some activity that requires focus and/or dexterity - preferably something physical that would engage both mind and body. For example, if you were learning to walk a tightrope stretched across a shallow pool (no fear of drowning, but definitely a danger of getting soaked!) then you will, more likely than not, be distracted from unwanted thoughts. So, perhaps you could try learning to juggle, to skate/rollerblade, or to play an instrument.

    The second method is somewhat paradoxical. You learn to 'defang' intrusive thoughts by not avoiding or running away from them, but looking them squarely in the eye and paying attention to the physical correlates of thought and emotion. These could be sensations like a tightness in the stomach, palpitation, a sense of anxiety or dread, anger, fear, shallow/rapid breathing, etc. You notice them, see how they are connected to your thoughts, and try to stay with them - with the thoughts, emotions, feelings, bodily sensations - without trying to run away. You look them in the eye to see them for what they are - wisps of smoke. By allowing yourself to feel bad, you get better. These ideas are very well developed in Indian thought (Vedanā), and also in cognitive behavioral therapy. You can learn a lot from a little research. Good Luck!
    Last edited: Oct 9, 2019
  2. BeautifulSmile

    BeautifulSmile Silver IL'ite

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    Everytime directly or indirectly I am coming here for help because of one reason. I too much worried for others, too cared about others feelings, too much into what others think. IF IF I OVERCOME THIS , most of my issues are resolved. Not saying NO, or not going by my comfort are my biggest issues. Sometimes when people simply say NO or JUST ONLY go by their comfort it hurts me. How much I think about others is : one very very silly and dangerous example is - while driving even at the red light or yield positions I will be keep thinking (about the behind cars) I am in someone else's way. I better hurry up. There are thousands of examples like this.

    Other biggest issue is, mom is no more. but still I never used to share anything with her but she was such a good mind reader she used to just say one sentence I used to get normal. She was my therapist, without knowing details she used to run therapy clinic for me. Biggest loss.

    No friends, there are few but I will never ever open up with them.

    Dairy - just the thought what if someone knows PERIOD I cant open up there too.

    Looks like I am ruling out all my options, stupid me. Might be instead of fixing all other issues I just have to fix - how to open up :smash2:
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