Hi ladies, Please bear with my long post, we r living abroad(not USA). My son who is 14 yrs old teen now behaving very arrogant and selfish. He is a tough boy sometimes very good and sometimes getting on our nerves. We as parents never behave harshly with him, the visible change in his behaviour was noticeable from 9 years old, he got a sister at age of 8years. We thought he was insecure and whatever time left my husband use to take complete care of him, ad I was busy taking care of toddler because we thought its difficult later if he got the feeling of him being left out. But maybe he took advantage or something I don't know life was back to normal as my girl turned 3 years old, she will be always at his back calling Anna but he never showed any interest to spend time with her we thought it maybe because 8 years of age gap. But now they were ok now some sibling issues this is one side of the story. Now he is14years, more visible change in his behaviour, before covid( covid took a toll on everyone's life) he was very active kid playing with his friends everyday for more than two hours in our neighbourhood. But after covid because of lockdown and aftermath things he is slowly lost his friends circle( some parents worried to send their kids to playground and some relocated to India because of job insecurities associated with covid). Now he has only friend glued all the time most of the time they both spending in online games or if they both interested they will play some physical games. He became addicted to games went to an extent he was not showing any interest in any other activities. All the time shouting and crying for no reason when we tell him to stop the games( I need to mention he is excelling well in studies though he studies not more than an hour in a day). Unable to bear his tantrums( ask us to shut our mouths and no need tell him anything) after lot of struggle we cut him off completely from online games for 1 week he has shown us hell and even went on strike like he won't eat anything until we allow him to pay games. We did not gave in, we even talked to his form teacher not giving complete details but telling the problem he addicted to games. She told us to observe him for 3 more months if his behaviour not changed we need to go counselling( for my son). All in all last straw today when I'm planning a surprise birthday party for my DH whose birthday is tomorrow I want him to buy some birthday gift or card for his dad along with his sister. He said he don't want to buy any thing as his dad scold him in the afternoon( yesterday when I'm telling about surprise also not showing interest) I just came to another room tears r rolling continuously. I'm not knowing how to change him, unable to believe once my lovely chubbing doll turned this much arrogant and selfish. Now my question is am I thinking too much or these are normal teen things( asking us to shut our mouths, irritating to do) how can I may make him understand things like love and affection towards family or he will change on his own. Need to mention eventhough we cut off online games he is having personal phone its mandatory for secondary school kids in the county we r living and another thing he has very good name in his teachers and my friends circle(uncles and auntie's) he talks normally with all of them. Please experienced mom's give me your advice thanks a ton.