My MIL is a seemingly sweet person.. but very pushy ..so the combination means, no one other than me realizes that she is beign pushy. Especially with me, she wants to push me to the background even when friends of my hubby come visiting. We live with her all the time, so its not a temporary problem. If someone specifically looks at me and asks something about my DD, or about anything, she answers and sometimes without giving me an opportunity to contribute to the conversation. How do I tell her ,diplomatically to stop doing that? She drives me crazy with so many things, and all the while my husband thinks his oh-so-sweet mother is being blamed by an unreasonable me. So, the idea is to get the message across tactfully but clearly.