talk and observe. do not change anything drastically on a single day. I was like you. a trick i learnt is continued my style, but was observing, the women who also used to talk a lot . little things, like what they talk and the style. it is almost like a story telling. some are good, they speak about personal life but nothing is really revealed. like yesterday, a good friend of me was talking about school party in her son's class. she spent 30 mins talking about all the kids , how they dressed what they are going to do. so much talking, but did not even speak single word or shared anything about her son. . it was like mesmerizing.