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How To Tackle Verbally Abusive Mil

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Needtobestrong, Mar 1, 2020.

  1. Needtobestrong

    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    Want to know ,those who have MILs who are physically and mentally strong and make sharp verbally abusive remarks, ...how do you cope with such MILs? Very tough to reason out with them and have a normal conversation with them if they want to take offense and be dominating always...
    My friend told me that there is conflict in her home since past few days...and her MIL created a ruckus such that even neighbours can hear, and refused to eat any food cooked by her since past 2 days...was crying yesterday and today...
    Happens to all of us, how do u deal with such situation?
     
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    Ask her son or husband to get the mik controlled
     
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    The dil has to just ignore.
    How long will the mil go hungry?.
    This is all emotional blackmail. Don't give importance to the mil.
    Btw if the mil doesn't eat, she will become physically weak in future.
    Easy for dil to tackle her
     
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    MIL will eat once she is hungry enough or she can cook for herself. Why pay attention to tantrums?
     
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    Can she or the wall-sharing neighbour lady record the ruckus, put it on youtube and monetize that ? If it is a regular event, one could even have a reality-serial-show.... like BigBoss.
     
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    What is the MIL’s age? I’m not making excuses for bad behavior but the time period around menopause can cause some pretty wild mood swings and anxiety . I remember having to walk on eggshells around my own otherwise mild-mannered mother during this phase.
     
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    No I think it s many years post menopause...maybe late 50s/ early 60s...definitely less than 62.
     
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    :hello:My friend suggested spouse act as deaf from a suitable date. She chose the Deepavali night when her spouse lighted atom bombs. After that she switched to sign language IN which MIL Could never attain proficiency.
    That ends the delight for Mil Who hitherto derived pleasure by hurting DIL in high decibels.
    Her mil began doing everything herself without any demur!
    Thanks and Regards.
     
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    I presume you prefer OP to deny or deprive MIL of her access to Milk So she wouldn’t be able to get that morning coffee followed by the luxury cup.
    Just suggestion is buy a pair of ear plug one for Op & the other for her DH.

    This will result in everlasting peace .
     
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    :lol: Brilliant!
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