Dear All Ladies, I am a very regular visitor of this forum and I like this forum a lot. I just love the way, how many ladies out here handle their toughest situations very nicely.Even though I am regular visitor, I never wrote a post here. Now I need all your suggestions to handle my situation. Really sorry for a long post, but I need to tell you about my married life and how I have faced problems with my in-laws. I am married for 4 years and have a 2 year old DD. Me and My husband work in IT. My husband is OK types and a decent guy.He takes care of me and my DD very much. But If I speak anything about his parents, he will not accept and doesnt like to see the fact. But during all these 4 years, I tried my best to explain him whats going behind him from his parents.Some how now I am ok to tackle with him or I got adjusted is what I feel. But now the major problem is with my INLAWS ( very manipulative and money minded ppl) and my BIL ( very selfish, just needs his share from now on). I dont have words to speak about my INLAWS. They are such a crap ppl. If I need to speak about my MIL, I just need to utter a word DEVIL. She really treated me crap from day 1 of my marriage. Initially I am so innocent and thought that I had committed some big mistake and use to compromise, adjust myself and use to listen to her each word. During my first pregnancy , she came in pretxt of helping me as I am on bed rest ( and my mom was not available) and created so much nuisance and finally tried to break my relation with my husband. She use to take her son outside and talk to him personally for hours. Once they both return, my husband use to behave very starngely like not talking to me, not even bothering whether I ate, sleep etc. I use to bear all those things. And in addition to that, she never helped me and I did all household works and due to that I got oborted in 4th months. I lost my baby. That time my husband realised a bit and supported me. This change in behaiour of my husband made my MIL more mad and started playing all possible games to make my husband away of me. After that obortion , immediately the same day she left me all alone and left to her town. Then she never called me atleast to ask how my health is. During my 2nd pregnancy she never turned up to help me as again I am on bed rest for 6 months. They were expecting baby boy, as I delivered baby girl my INLAWS didnt show interst to visit to see their own grand daughter. All she just needs is to listen her words.treat her like my goddess and follow all her words, deeds blindly without raising any voice. Only way to satisy her. She needs everything to happen in our life accorindg to her wish. Slowly I started departing myself from those pplm, to just keep my mind peacful. This lady even then didnt stop her plans against me and started huurting me , ill treating me in all possible ways through my husband. Now I just ignore. My FIL is very sweet on talks, but he is very manipulative and calculates everything in terms of money. What he needs is just Money Money and Money.There were scenarios, where he cheated my husband interms of money. He went to an extent to cheat my mom as well for money. But I took really 1 year after my marraige to understand this person. I am trying to show his true color to my husband but couldnt till now because my FIL talks very sweetly outside and says like, he is there for all of us to help and support and assures my husband to dont worry about his finances and settlement in terms of house or anything. he justs says he is there to make everything setup for his son. and his son (my husband) just blindly follows him. Now my major problem is, my husband worked 6 years before marraige and didnt save a single penny on his name. He use to tarnsfer all money to my inlaws. And he took personal loans to clear of debts made by my FIL for house construction in their hometown ( house is registred in my BIL name). What ever bulk money my husband sent, they purchased plots in their home town and kept all those plots either on my MIL/BIL name. To frankly say my husband doesnt have a single penny saved in his account or any land, house or any property in his name. All the propery earned by my FIL is registered either on MIL/BIL name. And my husband is so naive that he never asked his parents why it is that way. Even after marraige, he use to send money to his parents now and then and used my salary for house expenses. During 1st year of my marraige, I am so afraid to oppose it and followed it. Due to which even after 1 year of my marraige we dont have money savings. Then slowly I started saving my money and my husband also started understanding the importance of savings , due to increase in expenses during pregnancy, obortions etc. As he had huge personal loan ( to clear debts made by my FIL for their house contruction), we couldnt save much till my DD birth. After my DD birth, we started saving little bit. And my husband started declining to send money now and them, which made my INLAWS more against us. Now my BIL's marraige is planned and he got engaged to his cousin. I mean my MIL is very particular to get my BIL married to her brother's daughter. BIL is getting married to her next year as that girl is still studying. Now My MIL feels that the new DIL will be her own brother's daughter and will listen to her everything. Due to this my MIL is now showing more partiality to my BIL and not even considering my husband as son. My FIL, as he is not getting money from my husband and moreover my FIL is henpecked husband, he just follows my MIL wishes, hence he is also not supporting and showing more partiality to my BIL. in one word, they all want to form like a family and literally in all terms kicked us out. I am fine with it, but my husband is so upset and couldnt able to digest this behaiour from his own parents. To say my BIL never send his parents any money or took up any responsibilty. It is my husband who took loans and send them all his money with out saving anything. Now that my husband saw their parents true color. he asked his father to support us , by giving some money so that we can buy a apartment. His father initally send he will some 30L and aksed us to take some loan and purchase it. Everyone was ok. Now all of sudden, when we booked a flat, he said it is share between two brothers, so u take only 15L and give remaining 15L to my BIL. my BIL is also booking a flat. I feel cheated, being used and deceived by them. my BIL saved his own money till now and getting 15L and happily settling down before marraige itself. But me and my husband had to go through so much troubles. saved penny- penny and now after 4 years of marraige we are getting only 15 L. all money which is sent before and after marraige is completely lost. If we ask them about anything , they say all property is in my MIL and BIL name and they will take it. It is not ours itseems. I really dont undersatnd how parents can treat his own son this way and cheat him and how they show so much difference between two sons. Now I need yor suggestions to handle this situation and come out with some of our savings at least. And also I want to talk to my BIL about how selfish he is and how we have gone through so many sacrifies to save money for family. I got a chance to take 7 months Loss of pay after baby delievry and I am very much interested to take that to stay with my baby, but unfortunately due to personal loan of my husband and family expense, I had to sacrifice my motherhood and left my 5th month baby with my mom and came back to work. These ppl will never understand all that. Now I feel very low, very disappointed and almost broke, to see how they behave and supporting only to my BIL ( because he is marrying my MIL's brothers daugher). Please pour in suggestions.