How to handle single kids without affecting their innocence?

its nothing like that amulya..havent you seen siblings these days who get settled overseas and hardyl talk on occassions and visit just once a year..yes they are bonded with love but in such cases even if they are settled in 2 far-off cities, they usually avoid telling much to the other and disturb them. I myself have examples in my reltions where brothers have got settled and later didn't come up to help parents for younger sister's marriage even..I have seen brothers who being elder didn't take care of parents and were left to the sister. SO much that a close school friend of mine who belonged to a highly educated and well settled family was abandoned by her 2 elder brothers after demise of their parents. Me and my siblings are very very close to each other but my DH is not too close to his sister. They do lopve each other but he always says that she has always been my responsibility. SInce her studies to marriage and no always she has been my daughter in terms of responsibility but I otherwise cannot advise or command her as a father..that won't be accepted by her or parents. Then we thought what if the second one doesn't turn out as expected and becomes a responsibility on DD. All such cases are families like us..No one expects any such thing i n life but it happens. Isn't it?
I am certainly not filling your ears against second child...Its all about experiences and current situations. We convinced ourselves with all these reasons plus the above post ones....Had DH not been under so much responsibility since an early age..had I not fallen that sick..had we had some financial support, we too might have planned a second one but now circumstances do not favor that for us. I have cousins who would fall for us in any need at just a single call and at DH's side, his cousins...they all would be the first one's to hide back.

Its not that DD never asked for a sibling but we had been nurturing her with thoughts that would make it easier for us to make her understand. She is a loving, caring and very socialising child...loves to be around her cousins. you can read this post of mine for this

http://http://www.indusladies.com/forums/miscellaneous-in-parenting/179678-dd-happy-being-single-touchwood.html

So we now concentrate on making her a good human with a healthy body , mind and soul and wish and pray that she gets a life partner just perfect for herself and she would not need anyone beyond that. AMen !!

 

Amulya dear,

Iam very sorry for your health issues but don't get depressed about not able to give a sibling to your kid instead be HAPPY with what you have now,they are many women who are Hale&healthy but still struggling to conceive, pls be happy that GOD had answered your prayers & sent an beautiful angel from heaven to you,pls cherish it...I think you should focus more on tips on raising an only child, pls count your blessings & stay stress free because an happy mother can only make her child happy

Wishing you tons of happiness