How to face this problem...

Viji, He gives you a written statements and doesn't keep-up his promise. What do you intend to do later? He's not a Mahatma to keep-up words. If he has such a quality he won't be giving bonkers to you.

First accept the situation and work towards safegaurding yourself.

 

Vijir

You do not need a written statement from your husband to cease doing what he is doing. You are not entering into trade agreements with China or anything here to have a written contract LOL This is a relationship and its a honourary contract based on trust and mutual respect. And someone who wants to keep doing this, is not going to be deterred by a written statement he gave his wife and she has no way fo enforcing it.
You need to get practical about this and start doing damage control. Call all your friends and relatives and tell them not to give any money to your husband anymore and if they do that, they are doing it at their own peril and you are not responsible for those debts. You are going to be on the hook for all the debts so far in some fashion, because the money was borrowed from your friends and family and they loaned it for your goodwill with them not his. Then you need to get with your husband and get details of how much he owes each person and why did he borrow money from them and his plans to repay it back. The quicker you act, the better off you are in preventing this situation from spiraling out of control. Be practical and take charge of the situation. Good luck.

 

Awww, thanks vijir, for that gesture. But for all you know, you maybe older than me LOL
And yes, please do act on the problem straight away.

 

I am 28 as well...atleast for a few more months anyways LOL

 

Dear,
First stop blaming yourself.Its not because of love marriage....you would have felt more bad if it was an arranged marriage.
You have to sit him down and ask him point blank that
Where are you spending money?
Why are you borrowing and not returning?

Whatever he answers is not important but tell him that You will not pay for money taken without your knowledge.

Now whoever calls tell them " You gave money without my knowlwedge...so I cannot pay..Get money from him..."

Tell all your friends and relatives to not give him any money.

Tell him that you will give him a month to get a job...any job ..if not..separate and let him field for himself.

Be strong...you will be fine.

 

Vijir, this situation sounds more serious than it sounded initially. You say he is missing for a month and now he is with another girl and impregnated her as well? Sorry Vijir, but this bloke is a professional con artist. You should call all your relatives and warn them not to give him any more money. And you should also rethink your marriage to him because it looks like he is in it for your money and he is a parasite. You should tread cautiously and seek help from your close friends and family if you think you cannot handle this on your own. Please do that as soon as possible,