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How to face criticism from relatives?

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by connectgayathri, May 30, 2010.

  1. connectgayathri

    connectgayathri Bronze IL'ite

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    hi everybody,
    i am m married women with a little kid.i want to describe my character..i wont hurt anybody by my words...and i wont criticize others .
    After my marriage ,my husbands relative used to criticize my cooking..etc..i feel bad but i wont reply anything.But now these people are criticizing my 2 year old kid.this is so irritating for me..i cant understand how people can talk ill abt kids..i feel so sad..and when i ask my hus..he is supporting his relatives.i dont know how to manage these people?
    should i react to them?or what should i do?
    please help me ...:drowning
     
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  2. shivachoubey

    shivachoubey IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi,

    ofcourse you should react to them. Tell your relatives that you do not appreciate your kid being treated like that. As a mother ou have all right to protect your child.

    As for criticism, if you don't like people criticizing you then you need to speak up. Being a saint takes you no where. If you don't like something then speak up.

    When people do that to me I do react. Politely but firmly I tell them their limits and its gonna be same if anyone speaks against my kid.

    Its your life and you get to decide how you will live and how people will react towards you and make sure they better pay you due respect.

    All the best.

    Have a great day ahead.

    regards
     
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  3. ShilpaMa

    ShilpaMa IL Hall of Fame

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    Whenever I get it for my kids I do the following:

    Inform DH that I dint like commnet X, Y for the child and that he should inform the concerned person.
    A. At times he tells me let it go.. big deal.
    B. At times he informs the offending party to avoid those words.

    C. If I know that these comments are just to tease me, I join with them to add a few for my own child... and trust me they never repeat it.
    D. For instances I dont buy logic A and he's not in a mood for B and am too agitated for C, I go ahead and tell them in a polite manner that I shall appreciate if the child is spared of such comments.
     
  4. connectgayathri

    connectgayathri Bronze IL'ite

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    hi all,
    thanx for u r replies.i will take u r advices.i am emotional..if somebody hurts me .that is wrong..i should study to handle things..
    :thumbsup
     
  5. ushkrish

    ushkrish New IL'ite

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    hi
    you defenitely have to speak for your child. if you keep silence people may take advantage and if the child starts understanding what others are saying and your silence over that would send a wrong message to the child that you also approve of what others say.nothing worng in speaking back to such people who unmindfully talk ill of a 2 year old.
     
  6. raha256

    raha256 Bronze IL'ite

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    if someone critize u, its upto u how to take it. when soembody speaks bad about me, i get angry and irritated:crazy. but this started disturbing my job:drowning. so now a days i have changed my mind. you know what i do, i keep telling myself that i am a celebrity and they are media person. :cool2:. their job is to talk people.

    but dont tolarate if they critize your child. dont wait for ur DH to help u. do it yourself. we are not saadhus to tolarate all nonsense. that too wn it comes to lil one dont allow a bit.
     
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  7. rajeshkumar21

    rajeshkumar21 New IL'ite

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    HAI

    This is RAJESH KUMAR please u know need to worry for relavties words, if the criticize please u also do this the same thing, why should we have to listen nasty words from them u also start same. gayatri one thing u keep in mind ever and never we should fear for any one in the world except mom, dad, and husband, ok please dont get disappointment still there is alot of things to face in the life.for this simply thing ur feel sad then how ur going to manage many things. ok dont worry think me as ur new friend ok take care i will pray to god to slove all ur problems as soon and make u so happy ok bye:bonk:thumbsup
     
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  8. sweetmommy

    sweetmommy New IL'ite

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    Never ever let anyone tease the little one..I personally feel that any parent who does that is impotent of defending for the baby.The kids totally depend on us and they trust us that we will take good care of them.Taking care of them also include protecting their self image.So,go girl!!! talk back if someone tease the cute little one...be bod and strong...we cannot achieve anything by acting like a saint...gone are those days..:idea
     

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