Hi friends, This is bugging me for a long time, I want to put it out in open and hear some opinions. My DH is a good gentleman, principled guy. I love him. Life is good with its ups and downs and he has many plus and some minus. One of which is his frugality. The way I see spending is soooooooooooo different from way he sees. And sometimes it gets me all worked up and I feel bad for it not knowing how to handle. I am on h4 but he has given me freedom to spend, never stopped me. But my nature is so , If I "know" people dont like some things, I tend not to do it, though I love to do it. Same is wiht my spending, I am not a spendthrift, but the range I think is so different from DHs. First of all the spending I talk is clearly within family, like my siblings, my parents etc. Dh thinks gifts are waste of money, where as I love to gift. He is not gonna stop me from every little thing, but sometimes knowing he thinks it as a waste stops me from doing it. And I battle between keeping myself happy by spending or myself happy by not doing thing he hates. With this , I get frustrated and angry and show it on him in other ways which he sometimes have no clue about. Even if its $2 if its a waste, its a waste - This is DH. I dont mind wasting $2 if it gives me some momentary happiness. - This is me. Parents are coming to visit us soon and I really wanted us to bear the tickets, atleast part of them since this is their first visit. But DH was hesitant to commit, since we have just bought a house. According to me, we have enough savings and this oppurtunity wont come back, whats wrong in doing it? According to him, we r investing big, so he dont want to commit to other expenses right now. The way I see as "Enough money" is different from the way he sees it. I feel there is always some or other investment or expense stopping us from doing things to parents/siblings....I am not able to convince myself. Nor I want to fight it and make it done with DH, he is not a man who is NOT WILLING to do it. He is just an under-buyer / over-cautious / frugal person. And sometimes I soooooooooooooo hate this. All the time thinking "we dont have enough...we dont have enough"....Its irritating. But I cant comment or argue since I am not working, I dont feel comfortable doing so. I jsut want to share it out with friends, since this is bugging me inside. I dont want to hurt him or make him feel bad, coz he is a genuinely nice person, but tthere is absolutely no way I can make him a less frugal /less cautious person or make me more-frugal or more-cautious person.. How do I bridge the gap without hurting one another??????