how to convince him

i want to do aksharabhyasam of my son in basara but my husband not ready for that. he always says i don't have any leaves so we will do hear itself.when my mil
asks him to take to her native place he says that i have leaves i will also come with u and sends me to my moms house.for the past 4 years it is happenning like this. i want to change this man.
my mil haven't done any function to my son i.e.,annaprasanna .but they only have done is birthday. all his relatives are asking me why haven't u done that function all that.wat should i reply if i say anything about them thay understands bad about me( says always complaining).
if their is any function my mil and h only goes there.they always avoids me.
recently i took all the household work by fighting with her(which she does to herself and her son but not to me and my son).it looks like i am a tenant in that house. so i quarrelled with her by elders support.now i want to change a little more i.e., i am a part of his life too so that he thinks about me.

wat should i do?