How to change the world

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Leading By Example
We all know from experience that we can’t change other people, yet most of us have a tendency to try. This is because we naturally feel the need to do something to change situations that we find troubling. It often doesn’t occur to us that the best way to create change is not to try to convince others to change but to change ourselves. When we make adjustments from within, we become role models for others, and leading by example is much more inspiring than a lecture or an argument.

We sometimes look outside ourselves for what’s wrong with the world, but the outside world is really just a mirror reflecting us back to ourselves. When we encounter negativity—anger, depression, fear—we empower ourselves by looking for its roots inside of ourselves. For example, if you have a friend who is unreliable, observe yourself and notice if there are ways in which you are unreliable. You may be surprised to discover that you have your own struggles with this issue in ways you weren’t able to see. Once you own the issue for yourself, you can begin to work for change within yourself. This will also enable you to have more compassion for your friend. At the very least, as you strive to become more reliable, you will become more of the person you want to be. In the best-case scenario, you will be an inspiration to others.

You can apply the same method to larger issues. For example, if there is something you see in the larger world that you would like to change—let’s say, greed—try taking responsibility for changing it in yourself. Instead of being angry with those you see as greedy, seek out the roots of your own greed and come to terms with your power to transform it. This may be the best way to lead the world toward greater moderation and generosity.

Sriniketan[/FONT]
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Hi Padma,
The same is the case here. I have a typical MIL. You can imagine what all we go through. After some period of time, when people around me praised me for being so patient( even my husband!) I thought OK, being a typical MIL , she helped me earn a good name and respect among people. In that way she helped me. So, my outlook has changed which gave me peace of mind. nowadays I see only the good things if something happens the other way round. This helps us. We cannot expect others to change.
I think if we change our outlook the whole picture changes. This is what 'if you change you will see the world change' means, i think
Sriniketan