HOW TO BECOME MOTHER –IN –LAW’s PET ? With great expectations that the parents of a girl, bid farewell to her new house after marriage. They have to fight with the emptiness of a member of the house. The bless her daughter with all their capabilities and give her all the short cuts and tips to win the hearts of the new world. After that they keep fingers crossed till they get happy news so hat a baby can fill the gap of daughter. A similar emptiness is found in boys place also Emptiness among all happenings seems to be a paradox no? But it’s a fact. Have we ever noticed the boy’s mother? Have you ever tried to understand why she doesn’t mingle with the new member? But the fact is that she herself must be wondering what happened to her. Because till the previous day she was totally busy to make the wedding a big success. The very next morning things changes. No more she feels comfortable but uneasiness takes over the command. Some sort of worry without reason is being shadowed in mind. She was living mainly for her child. Her aim of life was to see him settled decently. All her endeavor, all her efforts, prayers were for him. Suddenly she might feel that she had been struggling for the benefits of the new member of the family, as she only enjoys the fruits. Secondly she finds the new member as a rival, as she fears that the other one might take over the command. A small child goes through such a challenge when he or she is blessed with a brother or sister. The whole attention of the family turns to the new member and mother has got a different meaning for all such things. It might seem to be childish to analyze this worry. Philosophies like a wife makes the man complete than a mother, too may not work out here. The situation has to be handled very carefully and deliberately. Her son has to find time for his mother. His assurance works like medicine for her. The only thing the new member is supposed to follow is that to observe the relationships, characters, …. In short, studying the new atmosphere. She can also ask the help from mother in law to get acquainted with every one, to follow the routine of the family. So she can divert and channelize the initial starting trouble very effectively. Because she is winning mother in law’s heart ‘SIMPLY’ without much of exert. Once the M0ther-in-law’s heart is won, she herself will take the daughter in-law as to the center of the family. Never try to grab the authority. If you go by that way the mother and daughter in-law will never click and will keep “PUNCHING” for the whole life where nobody succeeds. On the other hand the house becomes a problem factory. Happiness of life depends on small pleasures of each day. If the mother gets a lot of comfort from her silly worries, why not the others give her the comfort. So don’t underestimate her feelings coz others are not in her place. With the simple logic that any worry ‘from outside’ can seem to be baseless. All the best.