It was 1995.. Planned to go to the beach with my cousin,my mom and brother.I was at an age of where I wanted to explore with fashion (whatever was available at that time) and wanted to look cool.I wore a cream top and brown knee covering length shorts(?)which I brought from pondy bazaar ( a place which was the shopping hub in Chennai).My heart was Racing as I had to step out of my home and climb the auto.Interesting my family were supportive and didn’t care about what I was wearing.I was this super skinny teen with stick legs and nothing appealing honestly. I walked to the auto stand and remember a guy whistling and the autowalla looked at my legs..I was cringing.We reached Marina beach.I am not kidding when I say there were so many men of all ages staring at me as though I did a crime.Some Looked with certain perversion in their eyes.I acted very cool but my heart was beating too fast. I took of my sandals and stepped in the water.Looked up and there were men who were grinning at me and some making lewd comments.. I was extremely unhappy that day.When I got home,my mom said “You don’t live in America.Unfortunately,our society does not accept short clothes.So be careful”. I never touched those shorts again... Today morning,I was doing some closet cleaning and was getting ready for spring and then sooner or later dear summer will set in.I found my shorts and smiled.Here,I wore those shorts and maybe not much now but my dream to wear short outfits materialized.I called my mom and reminded her of that unfortunate day in 1995.. Mom laughed and said times have changed so much and shorts are not at all a huge deal even in Chennai now.with a huge sigh, yes it is not..Times have changed so Much.perspectives,opinions changed a lot.All those once conservative people have become more liberal. Dressing is just an example.Be it love marriage,living together,exploring freedom in terms Of education..lots have changed.I didn’t get to Live in a society like that at my prime time !!I envy! One thing I realized was everyone has desires but we talk according to Our situations and convince ourselves that our perspectives are right. Again,citing the dressing as an example..my cosister said “people Come abroad and change completely mordern.So stupid”. I said “ everyone likes variety of clothes and if they had the body,guts,confidence and place to wear it,they will.If u have the chance, you will do the same”.She did not say anything. Many men and women have committed suicides coz of not society accepting love marriage,not accepting their sexuality, but how times have changed!! Now everything is accepted more liberally! Why lie to Ourselves and convince about the right or wrong thing to do! Nothing is right or wrong as long as it does not harm That other person.Just coz one can’t do it..trying to say and confuse them they are wrong so that we can feel better is what is wrong! Those days married women are aunties!Even in movies a mom will be shown with a sad face,old saree and bun hair.If she is rich,she will get to wear gold chain glasses.Now moms are like sisters!! past decade most women started to work which is great and it was tough to be a homemaker.Nowadays..there are so many men who are househusbands!! Some desi husbands too..Some even I know Personally and their confidence makes me wonder and admire them. Times are changing.. I am changing too, can feel my once conservative thoughts have become more liberal. Just thought to write down my thoughts.. How times have changed !!!