How Many Of You Who Have Been Married For A Long Time Call Your Spouse Just To Talk Sweet Nothings

We are married for 17 years. We don't call . We prefer whatsapping each other. We take walks daily and prefer each other's company still. We didn't want to be a part of a noisy new year party in our community instead we went on a weekend getaway to spend a quiet new year outside city. Our kids accompanied too but they slept early. It was only the 2 of us.

I feel these small things remain etched in memory forever.

 

I am sure you are not interested in knowing the number as to how many in IL are ....
You desire to get FB from members who have celebrated silver or golden or platinum jubilee of their wedding.
But many of them are in platonic (love) /stage.
Sweet nothings would be natural and automatic for few years from marriage day and afterwards it is a great intellectual endeavour or gymnastics and would not come easily especially in joint family as mind is brooding constantly about and around kids-kin and members of extended family and Hitler-woman, SIL FIL BIL messing up the day-to- day harmony. Every now and then spouse would get her/his mood swing. A word uttered long ago or long long ago still haunts that eliminates sweet-nothings. Speech turns curt and words of endearment stand evaporated !
Among south Indians of traditional practitioners, there is no often or every now & then saying " I love you Honey or dear" in presence of others or in public or in camera! Instead of words they demonstrate love and sweet nothings by actions or deeds or clandestine gestures!

 

Married for 15 years, and whenever we are apart due to work or family reasons we end up calling each other for no apparent reasons. Just to hear each other's voice and check on them.
And mostly talk irrelevant stuff and gossips

 

20+ years now!
Early morning coffee time is sweet nothings and flirting !
When son (19) is home, we all cook together - that is the teasing and joking time
When away from each other, the whole day is full of funny emoticons on whatsapp, but before sleep we do call and talk on most days!
And the call always ends with me asking "Do you miss me" and his response "How can I miss you when you are already my missus"!

Lame !
But comfort is in the routine

Keep smiling
HR