Hi all, Wish you a happy new year! My parents recently shifted to our native place which was their dream for many years. I felt elated by the move and thought they will have a peaceful life henceforth. But to my dismay, I understood that they are not really at peace with what has happened. They keep lamenting how their health is damaged beyond repair and they wish to die soon (they are in their early sixties). It's true that years of hard work with no rest and schedule have taken a huge toll on their health. Both of them are crippled by a severe form of arthritis in addition to other complications. But this constant irritation and confused behavior on their part is taking a toll on me and my mental health. Their health was the main reason why I did not move out of India in spite of having a handful of attractive offers abroad. I felt that it's my duty to stay back and help them in the best possible way I can though I stay in a different state and visit quite frequently. This feeling of helplessness aggravates especially when the maid doesn't turn up to work at their place. They live in a village and it's very difficult to get maids/helpers there. When I was there, we appointed a lady and also paid 50 % greater than the existing rates primarily because we want her to be regular. But this lady, in a span of 2 months has taken off for more than 15 days giving some lame reasons. When I call them and try to offer some suggestions, they get irritated. Not that they get angry and bash me. I can see from their tone that my suggestions are not welcome. When I say please take some fresh juices, they will say cooking food itself is a big deal and we are having great difficulty even with that. They sometimes don't attend my call and when I say we should take a landline with a cordless connection to be installed at different places at home they say, ' Don't you know we have to limp and come to attend the phone every time someone calls. Why do you expect us to answer your calls instantly'. Though I can accommodate them at my flat, I am scared of the repercussions of putting both MIL and my parents in the same home with little space for all of us. It will be a total of 7 living in a 2BHK! I even told them that I will rent a new home in the same apparent complex as mine and they are not ready for that suggestion as well. For god's sake, there are no maid agencies, etc here and I am clueless on how to navigate through this issue. I am approaching my mid-thirties and when I look back at my life, all I see is uninspiring mediocrity in all aspects of life. I do everything that is possible from my side by providing them emotional support and financial support but still, I feel I am not doing enough.