I have this weird habit..Am not sure how to categorize myself.. If I like someone or have no hard feelings,I will do as much help,very appreciative of all their hardwork and encouraging.Even if they make mistakes,I oversee them,let go and empathize a lot.I have few very good friends for many years and have zero expectations from them.Some live in different countries but until today for more than a decade,I have stayed in touch and always make sure to meet them whenever possible.I am usually soft spoken and they can only see my good side. If for some reason,anyone who touches my weak spot or tries to put me down..I get downright evil.I competely shut them out of my life,give them silent treatment,make them very puzzled at my behavior without giving any explanations,will not discourage but surely not give any compliment and no matter how many years they try,I move away from them.I have cut people cold turkey many a times and in other times luckily they have moved away.I have hated them and never seen them again. Now..this time the hate is with my relatives.It has been a while and some relatives try to get in touch but I do not even pick up their calls.For me..they are over. My husband feels I give either extreme love or extreme hate.True..but I am struggling to find a balance. My husband and mom is giving me a hard time to try to resolve things with my relatives but for me..They have humiliated me so much,treated me poorly and I don’t want them anymore and no amount of sorry is going to fix things but at the same time..my mental struggle due to this imbalance of emotions is not good which I know. How do u find a balance?