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How a naive/gullible Housewife was treated in USA !!

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by trueloveseek, Nov 24, 2013.

  1. nemesis

    nemesis Platinum IL'ite

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    I'm afraid, there is something more holistic. The entire post is the MacGuffin. Trueloveseeking is the main plot.
     
  2. Akanksha1982

    Akanksha1982 IL Hall of Fame

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    OP, please tell us what happened afterwards. Did you guys meet him again? Was the guy still working with you in the office? If HR didn't take action, did you escalate it? Did you visit the zoo to find more details ? Please complete the story. It is very interesting.
     
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    coolwinds Platinum IL'ite

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    the coupon wasn't valid anymore. he's seeking a new one.
     
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    Iamagoodgirl Platinum IL'ite

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    This has nothing to do with USA.Happens in india too.
     
  5. trueloveseek

    trueloveseek Senior IL'ite

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    There is lot of assumptions by our esteemed Elite ILite's here.

    1. This happened in Greenville, South Carolina, USA. Lodge name is "TownePlace Suites Greenville Haywood Mall,75 Mall Connector Road,Greenville, SC 29607" in 2008, where I stayed for only 3 weeks, not 1 year as someone speculated and later I moved to Walden Creek Apts on Feaster Road.

    2. We never met him again. Our Company have multiple offices in Greenville. I guess he was in our main building on Garlington Road[by now you folks know which company it is, One of the Top fortune 10 companies in that area doing Gas Turbines], but I was working in another leased building in E Butler Road. So I never met that DIRTY FELLOW again.

    3. I believe his manager would have taken care of him. My hope was he would be booted from the organization when I decided to complain about him. I never spoke to anybody in the Organization after talking to HR. I cannot tell such things to my Gentlemen friends as it is about a not so respectful incident about my WIFE. I as a Husband will never talk about it to my known friends. But since this is a anonymous forum I found the courage[virtual :hide:] to share that incident.

    3. Unfortunately I actually used the ZOO coupon immediately that weekend as we were bored in that new city. If I had known his intentions then I would have thrown it back on his face [may be not, may be just would have put it in the dustbin and forgotten].

    4. My Wife is very sharp/smart/intelligent in one Department [money management]. I have to handover all the earnings to her every month. She always has more say in finance management department from day one of our marriage. She cooks very good food, takes good care of our son, She regularly teaches our son his homework which he gets from his teacher. I am really dumb/naive in these departments.

    But coming to other departments[big list to list it here] she is really dumb/naive.

    May be I will write about them on some other weekend. Thanks for finding my post funny. :thankyou2:.
     
  6. Ansuya

    Ansuya Platinum IL'ite

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    You, sir, are the most articulate, hard-working, and earnest troll I've ever met. Which leads me to believe you are not a troll. And if you are, then maybe it's time we positively acknowledged trolls who write as thought-provokingly and thoroughly as you.

    I have to give my opinion here. In my experience, many traditionally-raised Indian women are very naive. I would not call them dumb. On the contrary, they were raised in very protective and protected environments, to be perfect little ladies, and are usually very good at what they were taught to do (socially acceptable, safe things, like cooking and accounting, as you say).

    This is not an entirely bad thing, or maybe it wasn't bad in the old days. But it seems to me that experience/street smarts is not always considered a desirable trait in women in some traditional circles/cultures.

    As such, I think it is a little unfair of you to characterize your wife so harshly. I would imagine that in the arranged marriage scenario, the families of some prospective grooms would want or prefer this archetypal innocent, sweet, loving woman, as opposed to someone who is too assertive, mouthy, or aware of how to get what she wants.

    If a woman is raised in this environment, it is too much to expect that she will suddenly make a 180 degree turn and become a self-reliant, street smart, knowledgeable, and worldly woman overnight, as soon as she gets married. It seems to me that many women are handed over from father to husband, and rely on these male protectors to guide and shield them their entire lives. There is no halfway house (for example, living and working on one's own) between family home and marital home, the halfway house being usually when and where people "find" themselves and figure out how to live in the real world.

    This is a system that has many perks for the men in the lives of these women. So again, I'm not sure that in this cultural context, it is entirely fair of you to label your wife so cavalierly. What have YOU done to empower her?

    P.S. I am not labelling all Indian women. I am not saying I subscribe to this system. I'm am not saying it is good, or always bad. I am simply saying that from what I have observed in real life and here on IL, this seems to be a fairly common phenomenon. It stands out for me because I was not raised like this (I am extremely mouthy, if you hadn't already noticed). I am just fascinated by the double standard here. Women are damned if they do (if they are "clever", assertive and know how to stand up for themselves), and they are damned if they don't (if they are naive, innocent, and trusting, and somewhat helpless in some ways).
     
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    cinderella06 Platinum IL'ite

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    Lol, Ansuya love this gigglingsmiley
     
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    prettydevil Platinum IL'ite

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    whaatsmiley.. me khatarnak .... :hide: ... shakehead and all this while I was thinking that I was naive/gullible . You broke my heart Arch :-(
     
  9. Akanksha1982

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    OP, not sure what you are worried about 5 years from the incident. I think you should have confronted that guy at the time of the incident. Most wives expect their DH to stand up for their wives in such situations. It would also prevent that guy from repeating the same to others. I don't see anything wrong that your DW did at that time. She allowed the guy to enter the house based on the assumption that he is your colleague and reported to you what happened. I assume she learnt from the incident to not allow anyone and just take any message from the door. Hope you didn't had agni pariksha for your DW.
     
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    Maaf Karo (Sorry) Madam.... Galti se mistake hogaya
     
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