Hi ladies, Was trying to hold all this back from long time thinking the reasons are silly.. but getting very much frustrated and this causing ifghts between DH and me.. Just venting out today.. Please suggest me what to do...! Am married for 6 months now.. it was an arranged marriage and living with in-laws. am also working.. DH n me have a decent salary.. Staying with in-laws to whom cleanliness comes at the last stage.. They are least interested in setting up the house properly and maintaining it.. Right now we are staying in a rented small 2 BHK.. whic lacks very basic facilities. I feel so embarassed when somebody comes to home.. don't feel like inviting any relatives/friends to home.. Some problems are.. no water comes in the taps.. so water has to be stored up for everything when there is supply.. thats fine. thing is.. these people don't keep big containers to store rather fill small containers and stack them in kitchen like a steel shop.. they even fill small water glass too..!! :rant My MIL, she is 66 now. i don expect her to do all this.. alteast allow me to do..!! she does not want to put a door mat anywhere in the house.. i was sooo shocked when i got one for my bedroom and she threw it with anger in balcony..!! once i got a plastic soap box to keep dishwash bar kept near the washbasin sink as it was getting melted away.. next day it was thrown outside the kitchen.. no racks to keep grocery containers in kitchen.. she keeps everything on the floor. soemtimes keeps the steel containers in the living room.. :bonk There was no footwear stand till date in the house.. The first things i got to this home were.. footwear stand, dustbin, dust pan.... (MIL hates dust pan! :drowning) There are many 100s like this.. nothing is proper in the house..! After coming from office i do mopping of the house, bathrooms.. washing machine (no drier..), have to wash utensils.. (pouring water with hand) Am not blaming i have to do the works.. but doing without all the basics..!! I feeel soooo silly to write all this.. but all this is very irritating. I feel so frustrated to even enter house.. We did not see the house before wedding.. I had seen this guy in his sister's house. Who would expect people living in a cosmopolitan city.. who are well off... will live in house like this...!!!!!!! :rant DH has bought a house.. which will be available nearly 1 n half yrs from now..!! Rent for the current house is paid by him only... Going to other rent house will solve all htese problems.. PILs are not agreeing to shift to other rent house.. they are very dominating..very STINGY..! DH won't be able to convince them..as his mom does all emotional blackmail to which DH throws in.. Sorry for the long post.. how to handle situation like this? how to convince DH for this? Am i over reacting? should i just go on with the mess like this?? AM loosing my peace of mind.. Please suggest me..