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hope this help's u also

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by lovelydoll, May 9, 2010.

  1. lovelydoll

    lovelydoll Senior IL'ite

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    Recently me and my DH had an issue, I was trying to explain the matter for half a day but he was not ready to listen or even realize what I meant to say.
    I was pissed off, later in the noon I tried writing a letter to him stating my opinion and how I was feeling . Handed this to him ,
    of-course he was not ready to reply but later slowly he was talking about the issue and was saying that his was other opinion and another point of view, which I was trying to tell him in the morning.
    at last we were solved and had a little bit refreshment with happy ending.
    this idea was from the Indus ladies itself
    thank you
    guys you may also try this , if needed
    all the best to you
    if any-one else tried this before ,plz share your experience
    :thumbsup
     
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  2. pashni

    pashni IL Hall of Fame

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    i have done this few times before.latest one beingfew days back.but i mail him.last week was my wedding day.he just asked me whether i want something.i said no(asusual with s in mind)so argument started.then yesterday i sent him mail telling what i want from him and how i feel abt him etc.a very long one.telling all those he did, right from day one.the subject of mail-i dont think u will read this.:rotfl
    u know what, he replied every question or abt everything i have told in my mail.clarifying his stand . so the matter had a nice ending.

    one more thing, my MIL is deaf.so no point in arguing with her.so what i do is write letters to her.some i will give her.but most i throw off without showing her.anyway by writing all, our mind becomes free.eventhough i didnt talk or fight with her,my mind becomes clear and cool.this is a nice way to let out our anger i think.
     
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    reshmirn Bronze IL'ite

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    Great..:thumbsup
    I do this often -letter/mail- as it avoids most arguments over issues:rant and we can bring out our feelings/views precisely without any kind of interruption.
     
  4. lovelydoll

    lovelydoll Senior IL'ite

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    yes dear I agree with you, hoping for a change in my DH and MIL too
    but I can't write to her.
    she is in India but controls things in US :spin
    irritating and manipulating woman.
     
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  5. lovelydoll

    lovelydoll Senior IL'ite

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    yes dear, atleast our point of view and their's will be clear
    any ways thanks for your feedback :thumbsup
     
  6. Letmehavefun

    Letmehavefun New IL'ite

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    Yeah friends, even I do the same... right from the second or third fight between us..This works...While writing, it gives us also a chance to introspect if we our point or stand are worth or not. :thumbsup
     
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    Priya_Mommy Gold IL'ite

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    Seems to be a workable solution!!!
    But not sure if my guy would reply to that!
     
  8. lovelydoll

    lovelydoll Senior IL'ite

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    definitely reactions are shown. A written reply can't be expected in-return
    from that point, few things at-least they will explain or contrast our point of view from their's.
    this is a good thing because , all the time difference in points of view will be a emerging point for a fight:spin and that differences are told clearly then we can relax a bit .
    :thumbsup
     
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    lovelydoll Senior IL'ite

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    yes, dear u are correct:cheers
     
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    Tridev Silver IL'ite

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    This is a good idea, I am sure most couples do this or should do this when communication channel is broken. Most of the times one would not get a reply so one would keep interpreting about what does other person think huh!. How about asking for read receipt next time for our peace :drowning
     

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