Help. What Is My Husband Up To?

Thank you

 

2-3 years of sexless marriage is a disaster, not only for the man, but also for you.
It clearly shows that there is absolutely no physical or emotional connection between the two of you. That is sad.
From your post, it is clear that you have a heavy history to keep the grudge against him, due to the fact that he did not support you emotionally when you needed it.
And his talks with the DR and others equally shows his frustration about the fact that his needs haven't been met in this marriage too.
You both are miserably failed at taking care of each other's needs in this marriage; hence all these problems.

Who will bell the cat now?
If you ask me, I would suggest you to change. Because it is easy to change rather than expecting someone to change for us.
Start within you, and make it visible from your actions. One day your husband will understand it and reciprocate to it too.

Dont keep the grudges too long. It can hurt you so much.

Start afresh. Go to your H's room when kids are asleep. Ask him to stop everything (calls, gadgets etc) to spend some times with you - till kids wake up.
Even if he doesn't seem to reciprocate it immediately, don't stop. Be consistent on your demand.
Be nice with him. Dress well, groom well at home - specially at nights, and make yourself presentable whenever you to to his room.
Dont bring anything bitter in your conversation, instead talk something nicely/romantically.
See, how he changes gradually.
Enjoy sex with him and make it happen as frequent as you wish.

Slowly, ask him to shift to the master bedroom if he wants to enjoy more of his marriage life.
And keep your word should he changes his mind to move in with you.
Stop talking about his parents, or any other disturbance for now.

A man will be super nice after his sexual needs are fulfilled. Use this phase to teach him all about your emotional needs.

Build your marriage slowly from this point onwards.

Sex is not just for men. It is for you too