Has the Love Gone!!!!!!!!

Hi,

August 30<SUP>th</SUP> was my wife’s birth day….I wanted to know what she wants for her Birthday... I asked her what she wants…As one of my friend is going to Chennai and from there to <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-comffice:smarttags" /><st1lace w:st="on"><st1:City w:st="on">Madurai</st1:City></st1lace> I told her that I will send it through him... She said she doesn’t want anything…. I jokingly replied …I thought you will tell me “I want you”….. She very coolly said “I will tell you that but before I meet Cheenu, my friend, I will meet you…So I didn’t tell you” came the reply….In fact if she had told me that I would have gone, as I was planning to go to Chennai for 2 days for her Birthday, I blocked the tickets and kept it….

On 29<SUP>th</SUP> night I was watching a stupid movie till night 11 and gave her a call, so that by that time it would have crossed 12.30 in <st1lace w:st="on"><st1:country-region w:st="on">India</st1:country-region></st1lace> and wished her Happy Birthday. The next day morning we had a long chat…. We talked about the first few years of marriage… Earlier till 7/8 years before….. If any of our (me, my wife & kids) birthday or our wedding anniversary we used to purchase new dress and I will take off and spend the day together….My friends used to comment Veda’s National Holiday….After moving out of Chennai, all these were gone….

Where it has gone…. Why…..It is not that we don’t love each other any more…… What is the reason…?

We had a long introspection ourselves… When we were in <st1:City w:st="on"><st1lace w:st="on">Muscat</st1lace></st1:City> every week when we go for shopping, we buy some dress or other. Jewellery we keep purchasing depending upon the occasion….So we have lost too much importance for purchasing the Dress... My wife has a very Good/Bad habit…Even today she will be having one or two New dress which I would have purchased 2 years before…. She will wear the New Dress soooooo Fast… and I am just the opposite…

More than the Materialistic Gifts the understanding and the love for each other has gone up significantly…. When we first came to <st1lace w:st="on"><st1:City w:st="on">Muscat</st1:City></st1lace>, seven years back, she started a practice…Since Friday is a holiday over here; she said Friday is a Family Day… Starting from the morning coffee till dinner we will have the food together and the evening will be spent seeing a good movie or a long drive together…On that day, no arguments, no fights, no shouting nothing… We spend the day happily…. She will finish all washing/cleaning of the house the previous day and will have no other work than cooking on that day…She will make special dishes for us, so that we enjoy the food….In case if I have some urgent work, we all go together to the office and they will be waiting till I complete the work and come back together…. This built a very strong relationship and understanding between us…My wife worked really hard on this……

Now, no gifts are required… We love each other so much these things don’t matter any more… We want to be there for each other…. No talking ….. No words… Sheer presence will do….She may be in the kitchen, but always her thoughts will be with me… every two minutes she keeps asking…. Vedhoo what to do with this and how is this….. Something or the other…. It is not the discussion…. It is secondary… Feeling the presence gives immense happiness ….

We understood that we have not lost the love for each other but it has gone beyond materialistic expectations…We have not compromised or adjusted to/with each other, but understood and loved each other….

Open to comments….and also others experiences…..

Veda