Inlaws who came to visit the USA after getting retired who are negative and lazy? My inlaws are considered “educated class” in India. My FIL was a doctor there and my husband became a doctor there and came to the USA to work. As per the culture - they became dependant on my spouse once he started earning. They don’t drive or speak English. They don’t like to socialize with anyone. The few families here they do meet they like to gossip about instead of educating themselves. At home all day - they consider “labor work” low class as in India - they have maids, drivers etc. So they spend most of the day sleeping, passing time and gossiping or watching me/my son all day and passing negative comments all day at me. I try to keep myself busy but they have a problem I don’t sit and talk with them. They don’t realize that talking leads to issues and that here, you have to be productive all day. That has caused a lot of verbal abuse. They don’t like me to be independant as they are orthodox (Gujarati) and I am considered “The reputation of the home” So they want to keep me at home with them. My FIL refuses to even go out for a walk. They have no friends and just want to stay with their kids and go everywhere with their kids. They want to have the same relationship with my husband as before marriage even though we are married. We live in our own home and they have their own in India. But still they expect that we listen to them as elders and thereby giving them respect. Instead of respecting all the different generations in the home. The times have changed, the culture has changed. What they did for their kids 40 years ago does not hold any value anymore. But they keep going back to what they used to do for their kids. Instead of listening and respecting the younger generation, they expect submissive obedience. How to handle this?