In human relationships, it is important to be ‘giving’ giving’ and always giving, to get back in return from any relationship. We humans always doubt, doubt to give or take, not knowing what a wonderful therapy it is to give and lovingly take in return. The most important , the most conflicting of relationships is that of a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law. But when understood with soul, heart and mind, and start ‘giving’, it can be an enriching experience for both-‘saas and bahu!’ A long time ago in <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-comffice:smarttags" /><st1:country-region><st1lace>China</st1lace></st1:country-region>, a girl named LiLi, a newly married bride, felt that she can never get along with her mother-in-law at all, who was always grumpy and horribly short-tempered. She felt that their personalities were so different, it is impossible to live under one roof. What made the situation worst was that according to ancient Chinese tradition, a daughter-in-law should bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. LiLi was constantly angry at her mother-in-law’s constant criticism. She couln’t take it any longer, so went to see Mr.Huang, a good friend of her father, who sold herbs. She told him the situation asked him if he can give her some poison to put an end to her problem. He thought for a while and said ‘ LiLi, I will help you, but you should listen to me and follow my instructions.’ When LiLi agreed instantly, he gave her a packet of herbs and told’ You can’t use quick acting poison on your mother-in-law, because people will suspect you first. These herbs will build up poison in her body slowly. Everyday make delicious food and serve her after adding these herbs. Try to be very good to her and always be cheerfully obeying. Nobody will suspect you later’. LiLi started treating her mother-in-law with great care and concern and she in turn, became very accommodative and understanding. Weeks went by, months went by- the whole household was peaceful and contented. One day, LiLi ran frantically to Mr. Huang and begged him to stop the poison from working on her mother-in-law. ‘I don’t want her to die’ LiLi was in tears. Mr.Huang smiled and said, I never gave any poison to you, they were vitamins to improve her health, the only poison was in your minds and all that had been washed away by the love which you gave to each other’’ The gesture of loving and giving can act like a catalyst to turn any event or situation into good ones, it works on the principle of a photographer who can develop a negative into a beautiful picture, by plunging into the developing solution and bringing out the ‘latent image’-darkness turning into light….Many of us don’t know that we have beautiful latent images in our minds and so remain always in a ‘negative’ state. Life fulfills its promises if we do our part in human relations….