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  1. Dec 21, 2012 #1
    saman

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    hi ,

    do u inform ur husband about every little thing u buy for ur family members not husband side....ur side...
    say when i go out if i find some nice saree not very expensive , can i just buy it for my mom and not inform my husband,,,,,,coz he will again think otherwise....

    is it ok.....
     
    saman, Dec 21, 2012
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  2. Dec 21, 2012 #2
    CHEER2012

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    Hi, Better to buy for both the parents and avoid misunderstanding.

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    justanothergirl

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    Would u like it if he starts doing it for his?
    Not a good idea. Transparency is pretty imp in a marriage(and yes that includes little and not so little gifts).
     
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    renualways

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    Hi saman,

    Let your husband know it, and make him understand you love to buy sarees for your mom .Possible make it for a special occassion,so no second thought from him too.
     
    renualways, Dec 22, 2012
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    cutesmile09

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    I think you should inform your DH to build trust&understanding,what if he does the same, don't you feel bad? I will inform my DH for sure..
     
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    niti123

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    It is always better to tell ur husband unless u know confidently that ur husband will not be upset or concerned about it
     
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    Rihana

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    What is "he will think otherwise"?

    Does your husband buy gifts for his mother, father or siblings?
    Does he inform you about those purchases?
    Do you ever object?

    If your husband is the kind who thinks it is OK to buy gifts for his family, but not for yours, or if he thinks less should be spent on gifts to your family... in short, if he believes and practices "the man's parents & family come first", then you might be better off not informing him.

    But remember that trust once lost is hard to regain.... you cannot hide such gifts forever...
     
    Rihana, Dec 24, 2012
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