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Gay??......Disgusting to me!!!

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by Sunny3, Jan 18, 2010.

  1. Sunny3

    Sunny3 New IL'ite

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    I have heard some people saying

    "I am happy if my kid marries atleast opposite sex, forget language, religion, race. With todays perverted brains of some, we need to hope only for so much that our kids don't fall prey to these."

    That makes me wonder "Is this whole issue of gay marriages and its legalisation in some states going to have any effect on our kids? Is this all media hype and greedy politicians trick or is that really how some brains started working? How safe are our kids? How can we protect (Yeah, that is the word I would use because I hate the whole 'gay' thing) our kids from falling into this trap"?

    It give me heartache to think my kid being that. I get disgusted at the very topic. I change channel when something like this is even in the news. I would go to any extent to stop if it happens to be my kids. OH! I am so nervous, gives me jitters, even starting this thread.

    Please share your thoughts.

    Sunitha
     
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  2. Nandshyam

    Nandshyam IL Hall of Fame

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    I don't think anyone can help a narrow-minded person (Yes, that's the word I use for people who cannot accept others as they are :)) even God.
     
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  3. asuitablegirl

    asuitablegirl Gold IL'ite

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    My friend, being GAY is not something you start or stop. It is just how you are, how GOD made you. Some people fall in love with a member of the opposite sex, some fall in love with the same sex.... it's not a perversion, it is just the way their heart feels. There were homosexuals from the dawn of time... it is just that recently society has started considering giving them rights like the rest of us, and that is why all of a sudden we are taking notice of them.

    I think the best way for you to 'protect' your kids from being gay is to not have kids at all then. Because YOU aren't the one who determines what gender your son or daughter will be attracted to. That is in the hands of God. Now if you have some special God powers that we don't know about, well then, I guess you can just part the seas clap your hands and reprogram your kids soul if they 'become gay'. But assuming you don't have these powers, I suggest you accept the difference's of people around you, and learn some tolerance for lifestyles that are different than yours. And if your kid turns out to be gay, may God give you the WISDOM to SUPPORT him/her instead of shunning them away.

    I'm a woman married to a man. But you can bet, if I had met my dh... with all his love, kindness, and intellect... yet he was in the form of a woman, I would have married HER and proudly called myself a lesbian. Because, I'm not married to my dh's sexuality.... I'm married to his soul, his being, regardless of what shape he came to me in. LOVE IS BLIND.
     
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  4. Custard

    Custard Gold IL'ite

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    Hello Sunny,

    I'm single still and cant suggest / advice anything on bringing up kids. But being a Psychology student, I just felt like posting a reply here....

    First thing is leave ur fear, Ur kids are just going to be the way YOU WANT them to be. So, just dont worry.

    May be u should learn not to be disturbed by such things happening in this world.
    Its only this today, when ur kids are adults, there may be many more things more bad (that u & I may call as) than this.
    I feel, you should teach ur kids how to live in such world by tackling everything but being good and not run away with fear.
    Sometimes(many times) without knowing, we tend to pass on, only the fear to the kids.
    Just discuss with them the culture u belong to and ur traditions.

    I"M SURE UR KID IS AND WILL BE SAFE !!!

    Happy Parenting !!! :thumbsup
     
  5. asuitablegirl

    asuitablegirl Gold IL'ite

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    I think, that is a problem. I have seen many gay kids, who because their parents 'wanted' them to be NOT GAY, PRETENDED to be NOT GAY. Because of their parents (and society's) pressure, so many gay children grow up to marry opposite sex spouses and go through life PRETENDING to be not gay, only to grow bitter and sad later in life when they realize they would have just been happier being true to who they are instead of putting on an act for parents sake.

    If you want everything YOUR way... go buy a car, or build a house, that way you can CONTROL everything and customize everything to your satisfaction... but don't fool yourself into thinking you can ever control a human being. YOU CANT.

    So.... gay culture only happens to whites? Or westerners? Or like the moron leading Iran said, "there are no gays in Iran."? Uh... wake up call, THERE ARE GAYS IN ALL CULUTRES. So.... what's the plan? You're just going to beat the gayness out of a person by bombarding them with good ole Indian culture and traditions? Somehow that doesn't make any sense to me. And this surprises me....

    I have taken quite a few psychology classes in college, and I find it hard to believe a psychology student would have the views you expressed. In psychology classes, you learn about the pain a human can go through when they surpress their identity or live in a traumatic state of being...
     
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  6. rosegirl

    rosegirl Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi
    I totally agree with ASG..

    Custard, Are you talking of an ipod or iphone here when you say you can control Kids as you want ?????????

    Being gay and straight is strictly a person's individual choice. That should not be a topic of debate. Its their life and their decision. We as parents should raise them, inculcate good values, give good education and let them go...
    Instead of poking our noses in their affairs and controlling their lifestyle.
     
  7. Nandshyam

    Nandshyam IL Hall of Fame

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    Thank You !!!!

    :mrgreen:
     
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  8. Sunny3

    Sunny3 New IL'ite

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    Being called narrow minded???....Why??... because cannot accept a perverted mind!
    OK , Don't mind being called that way then!!
    Thanks Nandshyam for first fb.

    Such idealogies are easily spoken of with absolutely no second thought.....I guess when it comes to OTHER people and not our OWN!!!
    Having sexual relationship with own gender?? Is it abiding by nature's laws??
    Thanks ASG for responding.

    Thanks Custard.


    Yeah, agree with this point 100%.
    Thanks rose girl.
     
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  9. ShilpaMa

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    Sunitha, whatever man proposes GOD disposes.
    All my worst nightmares have come true & finally have reached a stage where I dont fear and take things as they come.

    This world is changing with live & let live attitude so pls adapt to it ASAP.
    What you want is truly what you want & u'll be unhappy if you dont have it your way.. same goes for the child.. so let them live & select their partners.

    It all depends on genetic configuration of a person & harmonal levels which is beyond the control of societal norms. If they're configured as homo u cant do much beyond that... take it as a genetic accident.
    Genetics and Homosexuality: Are People Born Gay?

    Some may develop a preference at a later stage out of frustrations/ failures in relationship with opposite sex.
     
  10. Sunny3

    Sunny3 New IL'ite

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    Thanks Shilpama. I understand the live and let live attitude and also abide by it. But But some scientists talking the language of politicians, it makes it kind of worse to even think something like that in your kids life.
     

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