Frustrated with hectic routine....

Honey,

You need to first take care of yourself. Please hire a maid, there are lots of agencies who provide maids in one day. Pls compromise on some things, else you will end up falling sick and non one is going to take your pain then.

Love
Anupama

 

Dont quit your job to become a full time maid at home. It will be very tiring.
Take a weeks leave and set a routine . Try and look for a full time maid or a live in. Soon DS will be a handful and your MIL will not be able to cope.
But do take leave instead of quitting and work things out.
Your MILs ego is preventing her from re hiring the old one.
What if the old cook walks in begging for forgiveness then she may keep her again !
Talk to your neighbours , they can be very helpful in a crisis like this.

If your MIL wanted to help then she could have started cleaning before you arrived , keep a basket for used bottles , ILs can put dirty bottles in it. I think MIL is not able to do housework and thats why it piles up.
Ask DH to talk to MIL . Get a dishwasher. Loading it should not be a major issue.

 

Your DH should something more than saying "Relax, everything will be OK". No, nothing will be OK until he and your BIL helps you in household work (sharing brings down the work) or manage to get a maid for you. There is no point in you and MIL getting stressed out, the males in the family do also have a responsibility especially when you too are working.

Do your BIL and DH help you in at least some of the household cores like folding bedsheets, putting things in place, not letting them lie around, taking clothes for drying, buying groceries, taking care of your DH while you get involved in kitchen and so on. If there is no maid, everyone in the house capable of doing work should share the burden. This has nothing to do about being male or female, it is just common sense.