Friend zillas!!!

Hi Ladies,

Reading some of the posts reminds me of an incident which happened to us. I and DH stayed at our friend's place for a week and went to see few places with them. We did share all expenses with them. After few months, they got a project at our place and wanted to stay at our place for a week so that they can save on rent and also look at apartments for rent. Unfortunately ours was a 1 bed room apt and my DH was suffering from pneumonia and bronchitis and he was in bed, coughing the whole night with night chills too. I was too stressed out, looking after him, going to work, taking care of the house. So we did inform our friends to stay at a hotel for the reason that we do not want them to contract the disease. But they insisted they will be fine and they just barged into our house and stayed exactly for a week. Our friend could not drive, hence my DH had to drive him to his place of work every day at 8.00 AM with his pneumonia as that friend did not want to spend on cab. Also, they expected me to cook hot food every day for them and will show their face, if I said we are planning to eat out. I contracted bronchitis too as I was cramped in the bed room only since these people were there. His wife used to just stay in hall (bed) and watch TV doing nothing to help my DH. I used to come to home every day for lunch too, to make sure my DH had some food. After that week was done, thankfully they went to an apartment. But I heard from a mutual friend that his wife was telling them that we are not keeping our house clean and that it was all messy.

Later on, we did meet up a few times as we were in the same city. We did go out for weekend trips as a group too. His wife used to throw tantrums and not talk to any of us during the trip if she was angry with her husband. She will also not eat anything and keep sulking in the trip. Suddenly she will forget all that and will expect us to talk to her nicely, forgetting what ever's happened. Somehow, we completed that trip and swore never to go on long drives with them ever again!!

So Ladies, my question to you is this:

Have you had similar experience with Friend Zillas who try to hog all the attention of the group?

Have you had any experience with couples who are so selfish, that it is bad for their own good??

If you did any any, how did you tackle them? Was lessons taught to them or did you stay away from them?

 

hi Veera,

That is what I did too. I confronted her when she started giving me unwanted advice like "you should ask your DH to quit smoking" and things personal like that. I told her that I know about my husband and that I know when he will quit etc. She got angry on me after that and stopped talking to me for a few days!!!

 

hi Rihana,

Oh no, there isn't an aota of doubt for me in my then sick husband nor the lady as she is kind of his sister as per our religion. She may be all selfish and rude but not a husband snatcher. So that point is ruled out.

 

Hi Anjanaa,

Thanks for sharing your experience. That was hilarious!! Getting all sulky cos of not winning a game.. these are the type of people who haven't yet grown up, though they are in a foreign country representing our nation!!

 

fencesitter,

Oh, if only we could!! I would love to do that! but the thing is, my DH gets uneasy that I am not approachable and that I do not have any gal pals!! So, in order to please him, I got to suck up to the one or two female "friends" in my life!