I have a friend who is always in crisis. Every month 2-3 terrible things happen to her. I am not exaggerating .... she is in a bad marriage , primary bread winner, her ILs are terrible and dependent on her, she has health issues, was in a car accident, her parents had health issues and recently passed away etc. She makes things worse by constantly eating junk food (emotional eating) , not exercising, believing every guy that talks to her is in love with her, taking vacations without her family (several times a year she goes on trips with her girlfriends and expects others to help her husband watch her kids) etc etc. I have been trying to be as supportive as possible - taking her out for dinners so she can get girl time, taking her kids during the weekends so she can work or rest , making my H talk to her H when they have a big fight . Recently I feel like she is taking me for granted. She is assuming that I will take care of her kids every weekend. She will message me and ask if I want to take her kids on Saturday or Sunday. I have tried to make up stories like we have plans and she will immediately tell me about the latest crisis in her life, start crying and asking me to help . Like she has a project due on Monday, her boss is going to fire her, her ILs won’t watch the kids and her husband has gone to a meditation camp that weekend!!! So then I am forced to take her kids. Frankly i am ok with it - I feel bad for her and the kids. She is in a bad place taking care of everyone and I think she wants someone to take care of her and that someone is now me. But my H is mad about it. I don’t blame him. Her kids are a bit wild and they break things, they shout and scream, still have potty accidents (5&6 years old), they lie a lot ( I think the toxic atmosphere at their home is hurting the kids). To give you some example - One time their 5 year old son opened the freezer , took out the ice cream, and the left everything open and outside. When I came down everything in the freezer was melted and running on the floor . I asked who had done it and all the kids said it wasn’t them. Then I calmly explained that I wasn’t mad, I wasn’t going to tell on them but I expect the person who made the mess to help me clean it up. Immediately this kid said he did it and asked me to promise I won’t tell his mom and dad because they would be mad and yell at him. I felt so bad for the kid :-( - Last weekend they broke our music system . I actually saw the boy drop it, then kick the pieces under the couch and walk away. When I asked him what happened he swore he didn’t do it. I told my friend and she didn’t care much - just oh no sorry about that . It’s an expensive music system and I told her it cost $$ and she didn’t offer to pay to replace it or fix it or anything. It still works but the cover has shattered and the front of it falls off so I had to tape it. She always tells me she doesn’t have enough $$ because her husband doesn’t have a steady job. My DH has told me he is done with it and I need to cut back on helping her. Part of my is annoyed because DH doesn’t do anything when they are here - I am the one who entertains them, feeds them etc. but part of me understands that Dh feels like we don’t get family time on the weekends anymore. Also, our kids are really good friends with her kids so they will feel bad if I cut ties completely, I am not sure what to do. She just messaged that she is going on a weekend trip and can I take care of her kids Saturday and Sunday (with over night stay at our place). I don’t know what to say. If I say no she will call and cry . I know she is having a bad fight with her husband so this trip is likely a way for them to patch up. Her ILs live with her so they have no privacy in their house to patch up. But her ILs won’t help with the kids. She has gone to the point of divorce once already so I feel like I should help but there is no way my husband will be ok with it. Any ideas? I have tried explaining to my H and he says everyone has their problems and she should just deal with it.