Hi All, I married my Lovely Wife [arranged marriage] in 2003. Happily married for last 10 years. Never believed in dowry system. But my FIL is always trying to give my wife jewellery, cash etc even without asking by me from time to time whenever he thinks we have some need[i have to agree to it without any choice though, as my wife never says no to her father]. In 2008 I returned from US with my wife and son and I had to find a rented place. So my FIL forced me to stay in his Bangalore Flat as my wife/kid would be comfortable there. But I had to commute to office almost 50 km either by bus or car because of this arrangement. I agreed as I did not want to offend my FIL for his love to his daughter and I respect him a lot.[But my office life suffered due to hectic travel daily ] Then in 2011 I moved to Chennai due to my new job and I was HAPPY to find a house to my liking as I felt It is always my duty to pay for my family. Now last month fortunately or unfortunately I have been offered another job in Bangalore and immediately my FIL got the existing rented family vacated and got my Wife/kid shifted to the same Flat . Ofcourse I was pressured by my wife because my FIL pressured her to move to this flat. I personally don't feel so comfortable[may be ego] staying in my FIL's flat but i have no choice[I agreed because i love my Wife very much]. I have put all my earned money till date in buying two vacant lands and I am yet to buy my Flat with my own money. Is it right for In Laws to keep showering benefits even when the Son-In-Law is not asking for it. Sometimes I cannot understand why some people hate dowry system and then do the samething in their own terms. Another fact is I am from a poor background and my Wife's family is way well off now. Another info which will surprise you all is he got his Son married only after the girls family parted with the full dowry amount he asked. Strange isnt it ? Why people think and act this way I am curious ?????? Cheers !!!!