Dear All, This is my first post in this forum and I would like to receive your advise on this situation of mine. I am married for the past 3 years and we have a beautiful baby. I live abroad with my husband and baby. My husband's family is a not so well to do family and it is only my husband who pays for major expenses. My FIL is no more and so, all major decisions are taken by my husband. All my husband's savings have been spent on my SIL's weddings and other things and so, during the first few months after our wedding, we stayed in my parent's house itself, since we didnot have enough money to find a house for ourselves. My MIL lived in the village, with all the relatives living nearby.And my BIL lived and worked in the same city as ours but at about 2 hrs travel from our place. My husband didnot have a good job, so he resigned from the job and wanted to take some time to find a good job. I was working and had a good salary. So, he searched for a good job for about 4 months. Since my husband couldnot get a good job there, and because he got a good offer abroad, he moved. I was pregnant at that time and so I lived in my parent's place itself and was working. During my delivery I resigned my job, since I planned to relocate and live with my husband after a few months. We asked my MIL to move to the city where my BIL lived (bachelor) , since we didnot want her to feel lonely at the village house and it was about 2 hrs travel from my parent's place. Then, after my delivery I moved to stay with my husband abroad. Why I am giving you this background is to explain that I have not lived with my MIL for more than a week at any instance. My In laws are orthodox and follow all customs that are followed in the village. But, my family is completely different. We have a lot of rational thinking. We dont do things just for the sake of it and have only concentrated on education and humanity all these years. We had a lot of initial hiccups that happen between two families during a marriage but now theres no problem. Because I now live with my husband and we talk to our parents over phone and everything is smooth now. The actual problem/dilemma is that we are planning to bring my MIL abroad to stay with us for some time. Here in my house, I dont do anything that is followed in my MIL's place, like lighting a lamp, washing the house entrance daily morning and evening (we dont get to do that here abroad) etc. It is a custom in my MIL's place to light the lamp everyday evening. But I have never dont that in my life. But we do have the lamp and small idols and pictures arranged in a shelf here. I always think that lighting the lamp doesnot hold good to this present world situation of electricity. During those days people used to light the lamps in the evenings, because it would become dark and there wont be any elctricity. But now it is not the case. Also, I dont beleive in praying to God, since I beleive in God so much and think that I dont have to ask God for anything and he has always blessed me with Good things in Life. God for me is a supreme power who will not be partial to somebody just because they pray or dont pray and that good deeds as a human being is all that is required for God's blessings. How do I tell my MIL that I am not interested in doing this lighting the lamp as a ritual daily since I dont want to do it for the sake of doing it and that she can light the lamp daily if she is interested in it, without hurting her. Should I first talk to my husband about it? P.S.: My husband is usually a very supportive person and loves me a lot. And, he has not had any problem with my not lighting the lamp or not praying to God daily - but he respects the customs followed in the village a lot and has sometimes told me that it is a good practise to follow daily since it would give me a routine to follow. In this situation, I am not sure what his thinking would be about this. Please help.