What we want in life? We are running behind education, jobs, money, marriage, family, kids, and then to have a better life for our dependents etc..etc... for one single reason, i.e to live happy and successful in our lives. People say, we have only one life and we must live it to the fullest; hence all the competrition behind everything to make that life "super Happy" But, one question repeatedly echoes in my ears.... Are we really happy? Are we really content with what we wanted? After all the struggles to be happy, are we sure that we found happiness finally? Of course we must be declared technically happy, because we have achieved everything what we wanted in material terms. We have gained our dream degree in that dream university, traveled abroad, and exposed to different cultures, got that job placement at the right age, and even got whatever the promotions we dreamed of. Got married, had kids, and established our own home, with all the luxuries as much as we could afford for. But are we really happy? Is that the happiness we dreamed a few decades back when we started our lives as adults???? Yes happiness comes and goes, just like light and darkness in a day. What matters is to sustain that happiness. Let me describe this from my POV. When I look back myself in my teen times, all I could remember was "Happiness". Although I didn't do anything deliberately to be happy back in those times, happiness stayed with us. Life was so simple, and we took everything as it comes. We had good and bad days, birth & death in the family, etc... But life moved on. Today, we are sincerely working so hard to find that "happiness" in life. We struggle to find contentment and the sense of well-being to bring that smile in us with the sense of happiness in life. When I was an adult, I struggled so hard to find scholarships to study abroad believing an "international degree" would make me "Happy & Successful. I was happy the moment I was selected. But then, my struggle was indescribable throughout my stay in abroad, away from home. Though my career just happened, my struggle to sustain within United Nations in a Professional position is a history. I worked diligently and mostly in a very challenging environment to sustain this "professional Success & happiness" that was hard earned. By the time I was 26, I had proper education & job in hand, but that didn't give me the desired happiness as I was yearning for a family to feel settled & happy. I fell in love, believing that's where the ultimate happiness lies, hence decided to marry him. Had kids at the right time, bought our own home, vehicles, & luxuries and everything to settle with a huge struggle in the next decade. Of course I was happy during each and every development in life, but nothing stayed with me in a long run. One after the other, problems came with everything, responsibilities made me compromise on the life style I was comfortable with.... and eventually, that made me miss out on the "happiness" front. Several years down the line, today in my late 30s, I wonder what is happiness? What is the meaning for all the struggles and fights that we face in the name of finding happiness? What is the point of finding happiness with great struggle, and then losing out the same in no time? Again the cycle gets repeated, and the struggle continuous. If I look back my adult life, all I could see was my struggles.... of course I was successful after each and every struggle; hence felt happy for myself, but then what's the point when that success couldn't sustain that happiness? As they say, life begins at 40.... I am looking forward to find "real happiness" in this second half of my life. I understand, happiness is just a state of mind... But that mind in us is controlled by various external factors, which we have no control over! I would welcome wise Lites from this forum to share your insights on the below points. 1) My mother always say, "we should be content with what we have". back in her times, she had only a very few options to progress in life. So, feeling content with what she had was not a difficult choice for her. Time & needs are different as of today, and finding contentment wholeheartedly isnt easy when you have rooms for progress, and opportunities are awaiting at your door. But then opportunities always comes with new challenges, and overcoming each of them takes your happiness away. Although you progress in life, and feel happy about that state of progress, you easily get blindfolded with the day today issues, that takes your happiness away. 2) The desperate needs to be happy & successful... Now a days, we don't take life as it comes. We force it to be successful. We plan it, we design it, and we want it in a certain way towards successful. Its like a project cycle. You create your target, and struggle to achieve that. Once the target is achieved, you celebrate it for a couple of days (and that's the only happiness about it), and then set a new target for the next project. The cycle continues till you retire/die. It isn't cool.... Is there an art to live in the moment, and take everything as it comes?