Hello everyone, We both husband and wife are working on gud posts. We are married for last 4 years but till now when ever we discuss money matters it leads to a very bitter fight among ourselves. There are many reasons to that. Firstly i think he is not taken the financial responsibility since day 1 of our marriage that a husband should. He didn't spend a penny on me or on my requirements. He says ur earn so u can manage ur expenses. Actually i started giving him all my salary initially but this lead to as if am begging for money for my cosmetics, mobile recharge and all.... Coping for few months with this, I stopped giving any money to him and started spending the money i required from my salary and balance used to go to my savings account DH never used to spend anything from his pocket whenver we go out ot market say for house hold items and buying something for our bedroom. I only used to do that. He used to say that he has already giving big amount to his mum for house hold expanses so our specific requirements should be born by me I was also told to born expanes of all the gifts we used to give to my inlaws and my parents on different occasions as he said he is already over buried with the expanses. To some extent this was true, 50% of his salary he used to give to his mu. But what pinches me most is the his attitude. He doesn't take any ownership of me as all men do. He doesn't feel bad like others wn i his wife spend money for day to day requirment. Well i had no choice so I have been doing this. In last few years, we have bought many things together like AC furniture for our bedroom sharing 50% but I have no regrets on that. Today i have a kid and even then he has restricted himself to spending money on my and kid's medicine only remaining things like kid's cloths, toys, diapers etc I only have to spend. Even he doesn't spend on his cloths, i do that when i feel Even if if tell him to bring things for our room for me or kid he will take ages to actaully materialize that and that too with reminders and arguments. It just spoils my taste and enthu of owing that thing so i just stopped doing it.:icon_frown: Well even on trips we go we share the expanses. Well, whenever we are abt to buy something or need something for home or for our room and we talk how much savings he has or I have and it leads to bitter fight. Last time, we had so much bad fight that my FIL added to it that "I have huge savings as i don't contribute to home as in my early months of marriage so that is am so rude and have attitude towards everyone :-(( though this come to me indirectly. This was a year back, since then my DH has said u continue spending money the way u he been doing, and he will not ask anything nor he will see or sign my expanses diary. I don't want to know anything abt ur money and u should also need not involve in mine matter. I started getting my monthly expanse diary signed so that he know how much I have been spending but since last time we fought over how much less I have in my account and where all the money is goings kind of things. he stopped seeing it too All this is not gud...and I hate him for this.:bangcomp: Even he hardly bought any thing for me in last 4 years not cloths no jewellery nothing and if i ask he will say i will get it for u but keep on postponing that and ultimately i get irritated and say i will buy at my own. Can u pls share your tips how can i make him realize my responsibility financially too. Please help.