Family Whatsapp Group Saga....

Congratulations on your wedding!!

My 2 cents which will save you from lots of headaches down the road, Stay away from all family whatsapp groups. If you need to know the family news, your DH would be part of these groups and will let you know.

Tell them that you cant keep up with whatsapp groups and are very infrequent checking and responding. Uninstall if needed or mute and never look at these message. Never ever post anything there, even to thank the wishes you received. Leave groups if its not too awkward.

You will thank me someday.

 

Ah, upon reading it again, you are not looking for advice on whether to stay or leave or what needs to be done. Sorry, please disregard it!

 

We also have several WhatsApp groups.
1) For me and my parents only
2) Me, parents, sibling
3) Me and sibling only
4) Me, parents, sibling, sibling’s spouse, aunt and 2 closest cousins
5) Me and aunt
6) Entire gang on my dads side: all my parents generation and me and my cousins generation
7) Huge group on my mother’s side-literally hundreds of members. I had to leave this group because it was getting too much. Mom gives me the important news
IME these activities wax and wane. Except for my immediate family I don’t really keep up much with other groups. I don’t post and just skim for any juicy details.
I wouldn’t waste too much time on the relatives you don’t interact closely with IRL. If it’s your husband side people then be even more careful with posting. It’s very easy to get in trouble with nitpicky relatives and you as the new bride.
These groups are also fine and fun until they’re not. Large groups will have people with diverse and strong opinions.
My group #6 fell apart over Covid politics. Someone posted a news article which made a few people upset, heated exchanges flew, some of the elders tried to mediate and then left in a huff when the arguments wouldn’t subside. It still hasn’t recovered fully 2 years later. I just maintain individual conversations with the people I really cared about in that group. It’s a real shame because until then we were having fun, lighthearted exchanges and connecting as an extended family many years after the happy days of our childhood.
So have fun, but be careful not to step on any land mines.

 

This is something I can relate to.

So our family has all grown up kids.
The youngest baby was born about four years back and of course everybody liked to wake up to his pictures and videos everyday.But after a while the baby photos and videos took over the group with ninety nine percent of the posts being them!!Grown up kids just became obsolete and were not liking it either.
After three years of patience finally Ms.big mouth aka me remarked on the content of the group.There is radio silence since then.Some passive agressive family we are!!

 

Now it is clear why WhatsApp provided “disappearing messages” option. Few of my friends had kept it functional. But there are crookswho before disapoearance of juicy message ir image would immediately take a copy and oaste it seoarate folder for future ref of for some harafiri!

 

May be it was a mistake he tried to select another photo and did not know this photo was already selected unknowingly. I would not even have posted it here.