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Dowry Harassment - Need Advise!

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by ashagok, Jun 18, 2010.

  1. ashagok

    ashagok New IL'ite

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    Hello ladies,

    I have been married for a little over 2 years now. My husband is a very nice, and understanding person and very very supportive, well educated and a true gentleman. He is against anything that is wrong and will not tolerate any kind of nonsense from anyone, let it be his own family members as well. He has always been against dowry and even during the marriage he told my parents he did not want anything from them.

    My issue is that my MIL is an anxiety patient and she is very money minded. From the day we got married, she kept taunting me that, 'if my son was to marry someone else, she would bring severans of gold, a house and lots of money here' and so on. My DH and I have a very open relationship and communicate well with each other. He is aware of these issues and when ever he is around he will fight back for me.

    The thing is when he is not around, my MIL and her sister get together and gang up on me and keep mentally torturing me for money from my parents. Recently this has crossed all limits and my MIL's sis has been poisoning my MIL's mind a lot. My DH has been traveling for work and has not been at home a lot over the last few months. When he is here my MIL's sis is not allowed inside the house as he is very angry with her attitude (money minded, and cunning - makes everyone's life hell).

    My DH and I have been speaking about how much this torture has been increasing and we came to a decision to file a complaint against MIL and her sis. Both of us are unable to take the mental torture and trauma anymore and both of us do not believe in all this dowry system nonsense.

    I wanted to ask, does anyone know if there is a way to complaint against MIL and her sis. If so, what documents are required, and what will we need to be prepared with. My DH says he will come with me to the ladies police station here in Trichy and will be a witness for the compliant, but we are still not sure whether to go through with this or not.

    Please advise what we should do, as the torture is going way beyond tolerance for both DH and me.
     
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  2. Malyatha

    Malyatha Gold IL'ite

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    It is good to know that you have your hubby's support in this. I believe that is is best for the two of you to contact a good lawyer prior to doing anything else. A lawyer can better explain the process to you and what you need to do prior to filing the complaint - posters can give you only a general feedback but the legal nitty-gritties can only be filled in by a qualified and experienced lawyer. Good luck!
     
  3. ArchanaP

    ArchanaP Silver IL'ite

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    It's good to know the support from your husband. Yes, dowry is just plain sick and disgusting.
    Do you stay with your mother-in-law. If that's the case will you be able to live separately. This will be easy as your husband is also by your side. I would suggest to try your options before approaching the law.
     
  4. sansmomy

    sansmomy Bronze IL'ite

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    I second Archana, she spoke my mind!
     
  5. ShilpaMa

    ShilpaMa IL Hall of Fame

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    Well even before you think of a formal complaint pls have a solid proof of harassment for their demands on money/ jewellery.

    Since they do all these tricks in your husband's absence they can prove you as an unstable DIL who wishes to throw her inlaws out.. since your husband has only 2nd hand information, it shall never count as proof against your inlaws.

    Mental harassment goes un-measured without a proof.. play safe.. even if your husband sounds to be on your side, he might get melt with her tears if police, NCW gets involved and might blame you for a brainwash.
     
  6. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    I second Shilpa. Make sure that you get enough proof before you file a complaint. I have a feeling this isnt going to sink in well.
     

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