Double standard husband doesnt respect me or my parents. Papa's boy. Self centered.

Hi you all there.

Am been married for 2.5yrs and have a 11mnth old baby. Mine was a love marriage in a different city.initially everything ws fine. Me n my husband both were working outside n had wonderful understanding wid each other. Around 1yr back during my delivery, we shifted to our in-laws place. All thru initial 2-3 months after pregnancy till i was bed-ridden, it was a nightmare. I was as if in a state of shock n depression. I couldnt even feel the joy of having my baby. (my stitches didnt heal for 2.5months due to neglection from husband & inlaws) wen only my father talked 2 them they took the matter seriously. My in-laws n husband are verysugar-coated kind of people. All under the guidance of my fil, none of them would talk badly.instead the way they speak all the religious things at every instance, i really wonder are they really the same people, who left me in pain, without any help wid no mercy at the time i needed them most.they would avoid taking me to the doctor as if it was burden for them.they would refuse me even small help of handing over a piece of cloth. I was all in pain all thru that period. Verbally, they would talk big things in front of people n even 2 me but wenever it would cum 2 doing they would make sum or other xcuses. I talked 2 my husband many times bt he would start counting all other things dat he earlier did wen v were staying alone n would blame me for being incredible 2 him n his parents. I tried hard to go 2 my parents place n had arguments wid my husb & in-laws too but i wasnt allowed. Finally wen i went after 3 months, i prolonged my stay ther to 2 months instead of 1 month. I wasnt able to cum out of the state of shock. It definitely strained our relations for sum time. He even uttered maa-behen gaalies to me. Since the time v have shifted to our in-laws my husb doesnt talk properly to my parents even if they cum home. As a result i dont feel like calling them also to avoid their insult. The thing is verbally my husb & in-laws talk polite but otherwise they keep themselves busy wid appointments to avoid talking to my parents.my husband has started his own business around 4-5mnths back. Myself helping him out wid d same. As long as i earn him good he would be very nice, loving n caring too now. Would also help wid baby chores occassionally. Sum day if customers dont turn up, then he would start blaming n fighting wid me. Then he would start calling me duffer, mindless, un-attentive , incapable. He has lot of superiority complex. He doesnt consider anyone better than him. Now after we started our new business, i first time came 2 my parents on rakhi. Well, just day b4 i was supposed 2 move back, my mother fell seriously ill n was required 2 admit 2 d hospital. So i cancelled my ticket n stayed over further for 2 more days. Though my husband didnt refuse me 2 stay he has started misbehaving. He has stopped talking 2 me properly. Neither he or his parents have talked 2 my parents even once. I was hurt n told the same 3-4hrs back wid him. Again he didnt accept his mistake, instead started blaming me n my parents for being irresponsible n not taking proper care of my mother. I am deeply hurt. I feel as if being used wid no respect for my parents n me. I had been very loving and did everything possible for my husb but seems as if he only makes use of me.my fil has always been guiding him wrong things- make use of every person in the world u meet for ur benefit. Keep in-laws at a distance. Not only this, in two instances, under the guidance of my fil, my husband even cheated two near relatives for money. I am really hurt deep inside not knowing how 2 correct n improve my husb. I have tried everyhing possible, bt nothing seems 2 work. He is not ready separate from his parents.dont understand how to tackle everything. Please help !!!!!!!