Dominating husband exposing as if i am dominating him

Hi all

Need a bit of advice on how to handle this complicated situation. Its been 10+ years since marriage with 2 lovely kids. Talking about intimacy, its nill. There is no communication. Trying to sit and communicate actually is causing a lot of misunderstanding so i have left that part. Sitting and pondering actually caught some attention on the incidents that happened during these years.

What i felt is my DH's behaviour is mainly because he feels i am dominating him. I have no intentions though. Being a single girl kid, he feels my family and myself will separate him from his relatives and pull him towards us. There are some instances which could have given him/ his family this impression. I am not sure of what my parents think of but i do not have any idea of dominating him or separating him. Even if i tell this to him at this point of time, i am sure he will not take it positively. I have to show it in my actions. I cannot go down and fall on his knees or his family members ones as I/We have gone through very tough times including extra marital affairs. Still i am with him.
I am not in a situation to express or type all the incidents that happened. But on a whole, can some one give me some tips that can probably help me to express that i am not dominating. I cannot talk to him. Please suggest some other means.

 

He is very manipulative. It is of no use