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Dog & Cat - a wonderful analogy

Discussion in 'Schoolgoers & Teens' started by Shobanag, Aug 26, 2007.

  1. Shobanag

    Shobanag Bronze IL'ite

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    This was a forwarded message that I got which I loved:

    Dog and Cat


    After watching my grand children, I realized that while children are dogs -- loyal and affectionate -- teenagers are cats. It's so easy to be a dog owner. You feed it, train it, and boss it around. It puts its head on your knee and gazes at you as if you were
    a movie star. It bounds indoors with enthusiasm when you call it.
    Then around age 13, your adoring little puppy turns into a big old cat. When you tell it to come inside, it looks amazed, as if wondering who made you emperor. Instead of dogging your doorsteps, it disappears. You won't see it again until it gets hungry -- then it pauses on its sprint through the kitchen long enough to turn its nose up at whatever you're serving. When you reach out to ruffle its head, in that old affectionate gesture, it twists away from you, then gives you a blank stare, as if trying to remember where it has seen you before.
    You, not realizing that the dog is now a cat, think something must be desperately wrong with it. It seems so antisocial, so distant, sort of depressed. It won't go on family outings.
    Since you're the one who raised it, taught it to fetch and stay and sit on command, you assume that you did something wrong. Flooded with guilt and fear, you redouble your efforts to make your pet behave.
    Only now you're dealing with a cat, so everything that worked before now produces the opposite of the desired result. Call it, and it runs away. Tell it to sit, and it jumps on the counter. The more you go toward it, wringing your hands, the more it moves away.
    Instead of continuing to act like a dog owner, you can learn to behave like a cat owner. Put a dish of food near the door, and let it come to you. But remember that a cat needs your help and your affection too. Sit still, and it will come, seeking that warm, comforting lap it has not entirely forgotten. Be there to open the door for it.
    One day your grown-up child will walk into the kitchen, give you a big kiss and say, "You've been on your feet all day mom. Let me get those dishes for you."
    Then you'll realize your cat is a dog again.

    Shobana
     
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  2. Rajjo

    Rajjo Junior IL'ite

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    a wonderful message...:2thumbsup:
     
  3. Shanvy

    Shanvy IL Hall of Fame

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    shobana,

    The analogy is quite true. thanks for posting.
     
  4. Vysan

    Vysan Gold IL'ite

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    Hi

    Great analysis & comparison.... Absolutely true....

    Veda
     
  5. kanaka Raghavan

    kanaka Raghavan IL Hall of Fame

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    Wonderful analysis.Keep posting.............
     
  6. malarvp

    malarvp New IL'ite

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    Hi Shobana,

    really a wonderful analysis. I couldn't stop laughing, but it's the truth. every mom should learn to be a Cat owner so that their kids know they can always come to them.

    Cheers,
    Malar

     
  7. soccermom09

    soccermom09 Guest

    My son is like a dog and my daughter is more like a cat Harhar
     
  8. lakshmi05

    lakshmi05 Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Shobana,

    Very true.

    Nice post.

    Cheers,
    Lakshmi.
     

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