I have a aunt who will always say good things about all other cousins in the family except us. Indirectly she will keep taunting us for our negatives or fallouts. All others are saints in her sight. If her relative works hard she will say he has got a good job. If someone from my side works hard she will say what is the use of slogging so much. Over the years I have realised that good words n praises flow in the direction of money or monetary benefit. The moment u stop doing favours to this kind of people, they start taunting. In your case you can ignore your Mil or show her the correct picture of how free the other ladies are in their life. If your mil or husband refuse to understand, no point in arguing. Just try to get a job and be like the other ladies.