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do you beleive in all these...

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by ashwini999, Feb 27, 2010.

  1. ashwini999

    ashwini999 Senior IL'ite

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    do you beleive in this..
    some of my friends were getting married...
    though its a arranged marriage..
    still the way they project it in invitations and talk is as though marriage is a life long commitment , a new chapter in life etc etc
    do you all beleive in these senti's and emotional words..
    even americans who were known to be so romantic never used to project like that...:bonk
     
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  2. asuitablegirl

    asuitablegirl Gold IL'ite

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    Well, marriage IS a life long commitment and it IS a new chapter in life and I HAVE seen wedding invitations say stuff like that right on the card. I think it's fine. It's a very special day in their life. If they want to comemorate it using flowery romantic language, more power to them. You only get that butterfly feeling of a "new relationship" once, so might as well enjoy it for all it's worth. In fact I think it's high time Indian marriages focus more on love and the marriage rather than just... how much was the dress, how much was the hall, how many dishes were served, is the groom an engineer.

    And for the record, yes, I do believe in those words. So should everyone who is getting married. If you're not ready for a life long commitment and to start a new part of your life... then you shouldn't be getting married. And if you're feeling scared to believe in those things, then maybe the one you're marrying isn't really 'the one'. JMO!
     
  3. vidhkarthik

    vidhkarthik Bronze IL'ite

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    To each their own Ashwini. Just because I wouldn't eat rotis with milk and sugar (Yucks), I cannot stop my husband from doing it because he likes it. Its a matter of personal choice.

    Some are expressive and like flowery words...Some are not. Neither is wrong as long as they do not shove their sentiments in your face.
     
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    saipavani123 Silver IL'ite

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    [JUSTIFY]yeah I too think when they are ready for marriage then they are ready for life long commitment and so they write it so. If those words add extra romantic feeling to their relationship...they can use it. Its personal choice. While getting married no one obviously thinks lets give it a try for few months... So its fine[/JUSTIFY]
     
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    Malavika81 Bronze IL'ite

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    Marriage atleast hypothetically, is a life long sentence....errr I mean commitment in most cultures LOL Whether you actually believe in it or think its bollocks, is entirely up to you. But one of the main concepts behind that relationship is "Till death do us part' or atleast they take those vows LOL How people implement that in practice is a different issue and your mileage may vary. Try not to read too much into wordings in a wedding invitation and its just a reflection of wishful thinking and optimism, at the best.
     
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    BeeAmma Silver IL'ite

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    Strictly speaking, most sane and decent people will go into a marriage with the best of intentions--for it to be a lifelong commitment. Yes, it is a new chapter in ones life because things will change in multiple ways.
     
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  7. ShilpaMa

    ShilpaMa IL Hall of Fame

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    Yes I do too... even in case if I have to go out of it for some reason.. I'll prefer to be independent than searching another shoulder.

    Marriage becomes a big conflict for people who dont believe in these words.
    Vidh.. u seem to be highly agitated with ur DH's porridge :crazy....
     
  8. vidhkarthik

    vidhkarthik Bronze IL'ite

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    Tell me about it Shilpa!! Yucks again. Well...He yucks if I have my rotis with banana. So..I guess it is mutual. :)
     
  9. Drpreethis

    Drpreethis Gold IL'ite

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    Huh, Ashwini ??? :bonk What do you think " Marriage " is then ? It is a commitment, isnt ? Regardless of wether you love the person before marriage or also after .. It is emotional and sentimental ! Period.

    So, there is nothing wrong in writing it on wedding cards, just because they got to talk / have known to/ the spouse-to-be for just 3-4 months before marriage.. It doesnt matter.

    The problem is when one gets sinfully sentimental FOREVER ! :)
     

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