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Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by 123thirumala, Aug 2, 2013.

  1. 123thirumala

    123thirumala Silver IL'ite

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    hello frnds
    here i want to tell the about the situation presently facing in divorce
    firstly my husband filed for divorce in his district i cant go their( life threat)so i took stay for his proceedings.
    (problems faced from my husband physical, mental, and tried to kill me ,in 498 case he bribed the cops and malpracticed the chargesheet )
    1 in another district court i filed a divorce case,mc ,dvc,498 three months back hired a lawyer he was bribed by exparty so we left him again hired another lawyer

    2 court hearing started for divorce judge refered to recounselling exparty bribed the counsellor he keep on questioning me he did not questioned my husband in turn he is threatening me with his legal sweet words that i should take all my case back our advocate escaped from the situation so i came to know from this situation he was also bribed i was in a dilaamma what to do need an instant help so i can prepare for my next counselling date.

    3 can i ask the judge to refer another counsellor ?
    4 can i express my opnion in front of judge without the advocate concern?
    5 can i tell what happened in the counselling session in front of judge?
    6 counsellor threatening me that he wont give ur belongings or sridhanam?

    7 as per my point of view it was not a couselling just it was a session of threatening settlement.
    8 frnds i dont want money from him i just want my things(ornaments,silver) which gave to him at the time of marriage
    9 before the counselling get started i saw my husband and cousellor were chitchating outside the hall i thought that their may be causual talk i did not expect the situation.
    10 warried, with a lot to tension how to face the situation becoz everywhere bribing starts before my foot step
    11 i dont want to give him divorce without returning my things back if he returned my things i will defintly give divorce becoz i want to continue my studies
    12 husband is not allowing to work anywhere if i go to work he his making nasty situations at the work place it is very tough and hard to face the situations
    note:marriage duration is 5 years
    i dont have children
    13 can i file another case of damaging reputation in the society?
    so, please tell me how should i proceed further?all sort of suggestions are welcomed
     
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  2. flowerlady

    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear OP,
    Its doubtful if your H will behave differently if you asked for a mutual divorce.
    Why not withdraw 498 A and put Protection of women against domestic violence Act if you really want a divorce?
    You can bargain on this and get a divorce, your H will stop making trouble for you.
    Maybe your H will become reasonable when you remove 498 A which does not grant divorce.
    First think what you wish to do, just harass or get a divorce.
    Its better to leave revenge and get out of a messy situation as fast as possible.
     
  3. Iamagoodgirl

    Iamagoodgirl Platinum IL'ite

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    you need to post this on indian lawyers forum.I think people there are prepared to answer you than ladies here.
    Lawyersclubindia Forum Home
     
  4. 123thirumala

    123thirumala Silver IL'ite

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    hi frnd
    thanks for ur suggestion
     
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    123thirumala Silver IL'ite

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    thank u frnd
     
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    123thirumala Silver IL'ite

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    hello frnds
    please reply me
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  7. Sendeepa

    Sendeepa Silver IL'ite

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    The sad state of affairs is most of our lawyers in India were very poor at school, and are incompetent in general. So rather than fight a case properly on its merits, they try to make money by accepting bribes from opposite parties, corrupting the system etc

    Please do not generalise. Poor in school does not lead to incompetent. I can shows you a big list of people who were very poor at school but outshined everyone in their practice and many have become leading judges. Poor at school and incompetent alone does not try to make money. Even the rich and competent also does and they exactly know how to do it cleverly.

    I do not want to deviate from the OP's problem. As suggested better get it resolved amicably. As told by Sumeera it is true that educated lady who filed 498a has never been seen with sympathy. Especially if she is working and having good income and if husband is old and not in good health.
     

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