DH nervous to talk to his Parents about the move.....

Hi all:

Dh and I finally thought it is time we move back this year to India for good. Though we are not that well off and know that there gonna be many hurdles but still both of us prefer there than here. We want our kids to grow up there and be educated in India. Ok since dh does not have a job back there so I will go first with kids for schools and he will follow later. I know it may take a long time and that temporary separation has its downside but after doing all the calculations we have no way but to live like that for some months atleast. We are talking to kids also about that.

In this matter I have full support from my family and siblings who are all the more happy that I will finally be there. They have promised me that they will help me whatever they can since I will be living alone with kids in the same city as my parents.
But when it comes to inlaws dh has not informed them since he knows they will not like the idea at all. They never in their wildest dreams imagined this move. They do not want us to move. According to inlaws, anything in India is inferior to US. They want us to settle here but dh and me do not like that.
Now, the whole problem is dh feels kind of nervous to talk to his parents and inform them about the move. He also thinks that I will get to hear a lot of crap from them when I am alone there though we plan not to live with them under one roof. I will live separately but in the same city. Though our decision is firm but when it comes to telling it to his parents he feels hesitant. We cannot just land without informing them.....right?

Please tell what you think about this whole thing and advise.

Thanks
S

 

Thanks Priya for being the first one to respond so quickly.
Yes, you are right. They always compare us with dh's siblings. And I like what you said. FIL and MIL have siblings who are better off than them. MIL's sister is very well off though her husband is not as educated as FIL and MIL always cribs that even without much education they manage to accumulate so much wealth. They were into business so could make money quciker and more than FIL.
This never struck me till you mentioned. Thanks. Next time I will make it clear that they better stop comparing. Dh tries to hush me up each time thinking this may lead to a fight.