dh and his foreigner colleagues..

Maybe your husband was the gentleman and made sure she got home ok and maybe the other guy was with someone.

Please don't be assuming that anything went on although I have to wonder how he got in business with folks that were such heavy drinkers/party-ers. Also they seem to have false ideas about Indian culture. Maybe he should clue them in.

 

Don't worry , your DH will say that it was a working lunch, dinner ,pubbing, all three were discussing business all the time.
There are plenty of places which are open 24 hours like 5 star hotels and restaurants.

 

Control your thoughts...Do not assume...It would spoil the day...It would spoil the relationships too...

On the other hand, If you need privacy and want to spend quality time with your DH, Please discuss it with him. ..Do not blame him..Tell him to arrange a separate accomodation for his Partner from next time onwards so that they will have the freedom to do whatever they want ..Your husband shall not need to accompany him every night ..

 

No, its definitely wrong. You have to talk to your DH and stop him from staying late night, boozing and stuff.. He has lied to you saying he was at work and he had been boozing and partying last 3 days. Its a clear sign that he cheated you. Its wrong of him to stay with this European lady all night and come back in the morning. I won't really accept this. Please put an end to all this by talking to your DH.. Or give him the taste of his own medicine.. He knows for sure, his wife will always be there for him irrespective of where he roams, drinks, parties or doesn't come home. Show him that you will leave if he continues doing it.. Be Strong. Put an end to it.

 

I'd bet a $10000 that your husband is up to no good. Golmaal Hai Bhai Sab Golmaal Hai Title Song - Amol Palekar - Bollywood Classic Songs - YouTube

 

As the saying goes, "if it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is.....a duck."

 

Dear Headspin,

I can understand business sometimes keep people busy for 12-14 hours a day. But nothing prevents him from explaining everything to you rather than responding that it is all business. Americans and Europeans have tendency to drink every evening but they know how to limit drinking. You have to makes sure your husband knows his limits and drink sensibly. Why don't you demand a quality time with him right after they leave to discuss the following:

1) Understand more about what keeps him so busy

2) Why an American and European are the best suited for his business

3) Why they can't stay on their own in a different accommodation

4) What is the reason for 3-4 days of drinking sessions?

5) Who is doing what and why are they traveling so much if it is a new business?

6) Their background and experience in the business

7) What type of investment each one is making and how much your husband has invested

8) How long it would take for the business to pick up and what stage the business is now?

9) Do they have other employees and how long your husband needs to work for long hours?

He has to answer these questions to his spouse as this line of questioning is not suspecting his character.

Viswa

 

What Viswa says is right.

Also some younger single people in the US do splurge including involving themselves in binge drinking. Especially when they come to third world countries and see the (almost) royal reception at pubs and hotels they kinda lose their way. I have seen it first hand when I traveled with my teams to South America, India and other countries.

The drinking that you describe does sound excessive and maybe your hubby is a great host and maybe going overboard entertaining his business associates. It's possible that he lied because he knows that you disapprove. I am not condoning it but people tell such lies without feeling any great guilt.

You should surely ask the kind of questions above and ascertain for yourself how important these business associates are for your hubby's business and whether they deserve this kind of attention for the value they provide to the business. That will give you a grip on figuring things out properly.

 

Don't speculate much but define the do & dont's of your married relationship with him. Let him know about your displeasure and discuss with him what can be done in this situation.

Try to understand his POV before reaching at a conclusion