Dear Sabitha, An eternally favorite subject to me!! I am here promptly!! Yes, our lives are intertwined, without our own knowledge over the births!! By our words & deeds we cast an invisible net around ourselves, which has as many plus points as there are minus. Just remember, nothing goes unaccounted for in the Universe. So by conscious choice making, if we increase the plus points, we will be able to tide over the adverse reactions caused by the minus points, with strength of mind. There is no second thought about the fact, that we are makers of our own destiny. By prayers, we increase our moral conviction & acceptance that there will be as many sorrows as there are pleasures. Even if I give a general example, I am scared that if by chance, anybody has that problem, they may get offended. When you read my next post, I do hope you will understand & accpt better. Do we not say in tamil வினை விதைத்தவன் வினை அறுப்பான் தினை விதைத்தவன் தினை அறுப்பான். Meaning - one who sows good seeds reaps good deeds: one who sows evild seeds reaps evil deeds: That law cannot be challenged under any circumstances ! This "intertwining" of many people's lives cannot be better understood than hundreds of people dying in aircrash at the same "appointed" moment!! Many lives, many msters is a great favourie book of mine!! Sometimes I feel as though it has been proved true in my own life, on meting some people! Death does not destroy the sukshma sariram which is a bundle of the "cause-effects" of our karmas! If you make an attempt to understand The Law of Karma, you will be at peace with yourself. Personally, I think (only) that I have conquered the fear of death after understanding that. My actions have become "conscious choice making" to a very great extent. I feel totally at peace with myself most often, though not always (understandably!).